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My elderly mother forgets to pay her credit card bills at times, so I do it on her behalf. Then she gets mad at me. What to do?
This lady was an accountant, so it is no surprise that she has a 823 FICO score. Now, because I have a disability, I never married and live with my parents. My own FICO is 806, so I am not a bad money manager myself. Since my parents are approaching the end of their lives (my mom is 81; my dad 86), I have all the passwords, key to safe deposit box etc. Now sometimes I notice that my mom hasn't paid her credit card bill, like today: it was due tomorrow, and she still hadn't scheduled a payment before she went to bed. Thus I did it for her, using my own account, but she sometimes gets upset when I do this for her. What to do to ensure her FICO remains superlative?
- ?Lv 61 month agoFavourite answer
The same thing happened to my Mom several years ago. In fact, she had unpaid bills laying around and people calling her about it. So, I began paying them for her so that she wouldn't get in trouble. As such, my sister had her tested by 2 different doctors for Dementia and it was confirmed that she had it. So, my sister went to court and got legal guardianship of our Mom. This was important, because in her state of mind she could be financially taken advantage of by others. Afterwards, I did my best to take care of her at home. However, as her needs grew greater, I realized that I couldn't help her around the clock. So, we eventually had to get her into a nursing home. Make sure that before this happens that your own Mom is on Medicaid in order to pay for this. Also, your disabilities should help you to keep the house from being taken by the facility. I'm sorry to have to tell you all of this, but you need to be prepared, for your mother's sake. Best of luck to both of you.
- RichardLv 72 months ago
Nothing, since it is not your responsibility.
- zipperLv 72 months ago
You need to set her down and exspain to her that if she does not pay the card on time they add a surcharge to her bill that will cost her lots more. Then tell her you love her and you want to protect her! And GOOD LUCK with that: older people can be a pain in the *** at times! I know I am one of them!
Set up auto pay .
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- dripLv 72 months ago
We are having trouble with my mom paying her bills.
Right now we are trying to talk her into having all bills paid online. Directly withdrawn from Her account. Would like her all her income directly deposited too.
Not sure why you think their FICO score is so important now. Are they going to be buying a new home?
If you are right there in the house with them, can you talk to your mom. Remind them to pay. Sit down and help them do it?
- Brother XLv 52 months ago
Well you ain't got to tell her you did it, just do it and keep quiet since she don't remember anyway
- garryLv 62 months ago
how about setting the bank details to pay the credit card , or is that to simple seeing you have a computer and all the banks offer you electronic banking ..think for a change .
Has your mother been declared legally incompetent? Unless you have a court order to do so, you shouldn't be poking around in your parents' finances. She has every right to be furious at you.
You especially shouldn't have acted without talking to her - maybe she was disputing a charge on that bill or maybe she mailed a check. Or maybe she tried to pay it the morning it was due and your unexpected payment screwed up her accounting.
Your obsession with FICO scores is so stupid that I expect you're probably a troll. Credit scores only matter when applying for credit, which your mom might never need to do again. Even if she does, a score of 780 will get her approved for whatever credit she wants; there's no further benefit from having a score over 800. And finally, payments 1-30 days late don't hurt your FICO score.
- ForwardLv 62 months ago
Just tell he nicely you are doing her a favour.
- Christin KLv 72 months ago
Why feel guilty for taking care of your mother's finances? You might want to try setting up automatic payments for her instead of doing this manually--most credit card companies have such services. That way she doesn't have to get mad about it and you won't have to intervene.
- PLv 72 months ago
This was the right thing to do. Regardless just log in and setup auto pay on due date. She still will be able to do it manually if she wants, but it will automatically pay it if she doesn't. It's insanity to have to double check her on bills like that. I setup my elderly mother and father with auto pay and they were upset at first, but now they love it. It really was a necessity as my father while very fiscally responsible would use like 8 different credit cards to maximize his rewards. As he got older it created too many bills for him to miss.