Anonymous asked in HealthMental Health · 1 month ago

How do you deal with a family member who is depressed ?

I know you cannot help anyone who does not want to help themself. But how do you be there for them? How do you not get angry at their depression if its been years? Thanks

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  • 1 month ago
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    I have read your question with a lot of interest.

    It is not just the patient who is suffering, but the entire family can suffer if someone is ill and chooses to do nothing about it.  To live with their illness day in and day out without any relief is exhausting and so it's difficult not to get angry when treatment could lead to a better life for everyone in the family.

    Sometimes it takes a serious intervention to convince someone that they need to seek medical help for a long standing chronic problem.  And so it is not wrong to enlist other members of the family, your pastor, your family doctor and anyone else who can urge the patient to get treatment. 

    And treatment should START with a visit to your own family doctor for a check up and lab work.

    The American Medical Association has declared that depression is a disease and like any other disease it responds well to medications and therapy.  And like any other disease it can be terminal if untreated or under treated.

  • 1 month ago

    Recovery International is a respected and well-established self-help. They have meetings online. One of their books is fpr families of patients - Peace vs Power in the Family by Abraham Low - sold at Amazon. 

    If the person refuses to get professional help, self-help would be better than none, and there's a variety of useful things, mostly easy if not downright fun. 

    Of all the basic lifestyle choices, the one with the best evidence is exercise, and you don't have to be an athlete to benefit from it. Research shows that when people suffering from depression go for long walks with friends, this is very therapeutic (source - the lifestyle-depression project at the University of Kansas). Things that take your mind off your problems for a while, like a funny movie, are helpful, as long as you don't let them dominate you.

    Of all the traditional Asian methods (meditation, tai chi, etc.) the one with the best evidence for helping people with mood problems is controlled breathing. Information about therapeutic breathing recommended by psychiatrists Brown and Gerbarg and PTSD therapist Emma Seppala here, and other helpful things -

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  • 1 month ago

    Depressed over what money, honey be more specific. 

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