I work with a female, she has slowly began to turn into a really good friend?

The problem is I'm developing real feelings for her and I am married. It's beginning to get more and more difficult to ignore it. Any advice?

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  • 1 month ago

    You are married start acting like it. It's called self control.

    Stop all contact with this home wrecker or change jobs. You are playing with fire and YOU will get burned

  • 1 month ago

    quit your job..................

  • Tj
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    You need to cool it, or face a divorce. work away from her. why are you getting into this, when you have a wife?

  • 1 month ago

    Congratulations you have recognized the thing that will totally blow up your marriage if you mess around with it. You now you have to exhibit this thing we adults call self control. You took vows, and you probably spent your whole life thinking guys that cheat on their women are bums. So now is the time to prove that  you can resist the temptation. Think about the consequences if it does turn into a fling, and you get found out. The relationship could cost one or both of you your jobs, especially if you cross the line and then get to feeling guilty about it and decide to break it off and she doesn't take it well. Your marriage is going to be damaged and may wind up divorced, or at the very least you'll have lost your wife's trust and might never get it back. And surprisingly you probably will feel like a POS for hurting someone you loved enough to say you wanted to spend the rest of your life with her. Have you ever seen you wife cry and not be able to console her?  Imagine that you are the one that causes the greatest pain your wife has ever felt. You might not even be able to forgive yourself if you have always considered yourself a good man, even if no one else ever finds out.

    Crossing that line would be easy, going back impossible.

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  • 1 month ago

    Advice? Realise you have already been making choices that have let you to the situation you are now in. So? You have to ask yourself why and what IS going to happen from this point. 

    You can now make choices to back off from this "friendship" in order to preserve your marriage, since there are now other feelings involved. 

    Or....

    You can choose to let this develop further and see where it takes you,being fully aware that this can and probably will affect your marriage adversely, and hurt your spouse. 

    Make no mistake this is NO accident. It is a series of choices that had led you here. And you DO have a choice to  make in what happens from here on in. There is no "But it just happened" or "It was a mistake". There are choices. Choices that will show who you are and what is important to you. 

    Choices only you can make, choices you will have to own. So what do you choose? 

  • 1 month ago

    Invite your female friend out to lunch so you can show her what you have written here and discuss your developing feelings.  If she feels the same way then you can sit down with your spouse and show them what you have written here and discuss your growing feelings for your work wife.  If your spouse has not met her then now would be the time for such a meeting.  You could invite her to your home for dinner or go out to dinner so they can see how well they get along.  You can discuss how things should proceed.  Perhaps your work wife can move in with you.

  • Foofa
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    If you're immature to the point where you have no control over your emotions you'll need to go find a different job. 

  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    do not................................................

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