Anonymous asked in Society & CultureEtiquette · 5 months ago

If a barrista/cafe server at a cafe asked you if you had a “seniors card” after you ordered coffee & you were not a senior how do you feel?

Do you call them out?

Do you feel you look like a senior ?

People should not assume ages


You say “do I look that old?!” And they laugh awkwardly..

They are rude

Update 2:

Assuming a 48 year old or a 35 year old  or a 55 year old is a senior over agr 65 is rude..

23 Answers

  • 5 months ago

    Assumptions are not based on evidence but ultimately, you decide how much emotional attention you want to give this matter given you cannot change what has been said.  If you really felt offended, then you speak up.  Equally, chose to put your focus elsewhere and enjoy your coffee.

  • Anonymous
    5 months ago

    < Assuming a 48 year old or a 35 year old or a 55 year old is a senior over agr 65 is rude >


    Suck it up Snowflake.

  • Anonymous
    5 months ago

    I had been frequenting a store for three decades and I even worked there part time for 9 years. We had a sign at the register that said "Ask for your Senior Discount: 10% off every Wednesday". The only thing management told me about the discount was we were not allowed to ask for ID or ask if someone was a senior.

    Imagine my surprise when I found out that I could have been saving 10% of every sale for 5 years as the discount applied to those 55 years and older! Drats!

    Note: I do not look my age. My sister  who is five years younger than I am  looks older than me, so I am told.

    I think it is up to the seniors to present their discount card or state they are a senior. That way, all awkwardness is alleviated.

  • 5 months ago

    i'd ask them what is the starting age for senior discount begin and will my drivers license suffice. if i need one of theirs. well find another place that doesn't require it. 

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  • denise
    Lv 7
    5 months ago

    I wouldn't mind really,  I'd say 'no, but you can give me discount if you like!'.

    Once while shopping at the butchers a few years ago now,  The lady assistant said 'That will be £.-.. with your over 60 discount please', and I said' I'm only 57', then she said, ' I've put it through the till now,' and she just took the discounted amount! 

  • 5 months ago

    Sometimes they say it 'automatically' because it's their job. They don't stop and LOOK at the person before asking. Other times they say it out of spite. Look at the person asking - their manner can usually tell you if they even care. 

  • L
    Lv 5
    5 months ago

    NO problem.  NOT all places offer Senior Cards.  If you intend on going there a lot and are a Senior - ASK FOR A CARD.

  • Pearl
    Lv 7
    5 months ago

    they just made a mistake, just tell them youre not one

  • Anonymous
    5 months ago

    "People should not assume ages"   Asking IF someone has a senior's card is NOT assuming someone's age.  It is simply allowing for the possibility that someone MIGHT be a senior.    By NOT asking, the server is assuming the person is not old enough.   

    Lv 6
    5 months ago

    Oh no. I remember the first time a child called me a man, and that was a shock. I was probably 16. Where has all the time gone.

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