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Anonymous asked in Society & CultureEtiquette · 2 months ago

Does your parents get rid of your things randomly, without any disregards to what it is and who it belongs to?

I'm in my 20's still living with my parents. About 3 year ago, my dad took all my childhood stuff that were stored in the basement, and donated them to the thrift store without asking or telling me about it. I had some old toys, lego sets, stuffed animals and childhood keepsakes that were stored in the basement. One day, I went downstairs to search for my stuff and found out that all the stuff from my childhood are all gone! My dad is a short tempered man, I was afraid to ask him for an explanation.I remember crying for a week before I finally got the courage to ask him why he donated my stuff without asking me? He simply said, 'welll I thought you don't wan't it anymore, so I donated it. He just assume that I didn't want the stuff anymore without even asking me. He said he didn't do it on purpose and promised that next time he will ask before getting rid of my things. This it's just a one-off incident. I decide to let it go and move on. I thought after discussing this issue with him he won't do the same thing again but that's the that case! It happend again. Beside from my childood keepsake and there were also some boxes of items filled with my mom's personal belongings stacked in the basement. Not long afterwards, when he decided to clear out the entire basement he gotten rid of my mother's belongings too. He gave away all her clothes, shoes household items, mugs without her consent or knowledge. When she confronted him about it, he became defensive and lashed out.    

 

 

Update:

Me and my mom have talked about this issuee with him years ago when he got rid of our stuff from the basement, plead him not to throw our things away again without any consent or knowledge on our part. But it happened again recently. My dad continue to randomly throw things away, without any disregards to what it is and who it belongs to? It seems like he doesn’t care or respect your possessions, he doesn’t see a problem with that, and it isn’t going to change. 

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  • Foofa
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    I was gifted a ton of authentic Barbies and accessories from the 1960's by a great aunt. As soon as I left for college my mom tossed it all. At current rates on eBay that stuff would have been worth hundreds. :-(

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  • 2 months ago

    You and your mother need to rent a storage locker and keep your things you want to save under lock and key. Or build a room in the basement where you can lock your things up.

    It is painfully obvious and abundantly clear that your father is not going to stop giving away other people's belongings. Since you can't change his behavior oh, you must change yours and Safeguard your belongings from him. Especially since now you know he doesn't care how much you plead with him he's going to giveaway whatever he wants to get rid of.

    So take control of your belongings and Safeguard them.

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  • Pearl
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    maybe you can go to the thrift store and get your stuff back and move out so this dont happen again

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  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    Tell your parents you seriously need some mental illness therapy.

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    • 2 months agoReport

      Me and my mom have talked about this issuee with him years ago when he got rid of our stuff from the basement, plead him not to throw our things away again without any consent or knowledge on our part. But it happened again recently!

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