Is gender a social construct ?
Or is it biological? Are you born gay or is it a construct? Pray the gay away kind of thing
- CraigLv 54 months agoFavourite answer
You're mixing up two separate concepts. (BTW - Nobody really knows how all this works, so you needn't spend a lot of time trying to nail this down, one way or the other. It's dueling theories...and the duel isn't really over science - it's over politics, or self-vindication. So don't pay it too much attention.)
Note first of all that "gender" has to do with whether you think of yourself as a male or as a female (given that how you think of yourself might differ from what's between your legs). Whether you're gay, straight, bi, or something else isn't a matter of gender...it's a matter of "sexuality", which ISN'T about whether you think of yourself as male or female.
People with penises can think and feel like females. People with vaginas can think and feel like males. That is likely a matter of biology (although some people argue that it is a matter of psychology instead...which is probably hair-splitting, at the end of the day.)
Apart from that, people with penises can get sexual excitement and gratification from other people with penises. And people with vaginas can get sexual excitement and gratification from other people with vaginas. That is ALSO likely a matter of biology. But of the two people with penises, neither needs to think or feel like a female...and of the two people with vaginas, neither needs to think or feel like a male. It almost always is two men, who both feel and think like men, or two women, who both feel and think like women. So sexuality and gender identification are two separate concepts.
If you are a boy/man who finds that he simply understands and relates to the thoughts and feelings of the girls/women around him while he is confused, alienated or repulsed by the thoughts, feelings, and actions of the boys/men around him, and who feels very uncomfortable and unhappy doing all the "boy/man things" that everyone expects of him, and who is put off by the maleness of his body and the male role in sex...then you might have a gender identification issue.
If you are a boy/man who finds that he becomes sexually aroused by other boys/men...then you might be bisexual or homosexual. You don't have to feel like or act like a girl/woman to do that...nor does doing that "make you" into a girl or woman.
If you have either of those two, different experiences, then prayer might help you contend with being "different" - but it won't change what you feel, or what your sexual interests are.
PS - When people say "social construct" they are typically talking about how we get our personal ideas of how a boy (or a girl) is supposed to act and feel. For example, some people believe that girls like to be submissive or manipulative, or crave adoration and focus on their appearance, or desire to be taken care of and ruled over, or love to cook, clean, sew, and provide childcare - because they are female. In other words, such people think these traits automatically appear in any healthy person with two X chromosomes. Other people think that a person can have two X chromosomes and have NONE of those traits...that such traits are often found in females simply because females are TAUGHT those traits by SOCIETY (including their parents). Those other people say that such stereotypical "gender" behaviours and attitudes differ from one society to the next, so how a girl or a boy is supposed to feel or act is constructed by their society, instead of being inborn. Hence the term "social construct". It has nothing to do with being gay, straight, or otherwise.
- nineteenthlyLv 74 months ago
Yes it is, but that doesn't make it changeable. It actually makes it harder to change than if it was biological. If a "perfect" sex change could convert a male body to a body capable of bearing and delivering a child and having periods etc, and was indistinguishable from a woman's body even down to the chromosomes, that person would still be male.
- John BoltonLv 54 months ago
Gender is a social construct.
- reme_1Lv 74 months ago
Since my mother was aware of my affection for other girls at 12 I do feel that it is biological as nothing happened to lead me in this direction.
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- Anonymous4 months ago
Gender doesn't exist. What does this have to do with being gay?
- 4 months ago
"Is gender a social construct?"
Gender is an issue people get tied up in knots about because it can mean several different things.
Gender Identity, how we all internally perceive ourselves in a gender way, is an inborn trait.
Gender Roles, societal expectation for an individual based on their apparent gender, is a social construct.
Gender Expression, how we all walk, talk, dress and mannerisms is a combination of both.
"Are you born gay or is it a construct?"
Sexual orientation, all sexual orientations, are inborn characteristics.
- ElizabethLv 74 months ago
Gender is biological. Gender roles are social constructs. Gender and sexual preference are totally unrelated.
Read about David Reimer: in the book:, As Nature Made Him.
- Anonymous4 months ago
Gender has always been a social construct, the real reason you see transgenders is because men who act in a stereotypical feminine manner are heavily bullied by sexists like Alexander.
So rather than accept that they are men who like living differently and suffer WORSE consequences for stepping out of line, they become transgenders.
- AlexanderLv 74 months ago
Gender roles are largely social constructs. Gender identity and sexual attraction are not, for the obvious reason that they often run directly counter to society's expectations and demands.
- BrianLv 74 months ago
So, who sat you down and helped you decide that you were gay or straight?