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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 5 months ago

Should I forgive my boyfriend?

For a couple of years, I had a stalker. I received loads of strange calls/messages. He sent stuff to my work. He broke into my house 3 times and stole hairbrushes and underwear and stuff. 

My boyfriend has now admitted it was him that was stalking me (before we got together). I’m now really conflicted. I’m freaked out thinking about the stuff he did. It was really weird. It was scary at the time. But now I have feelings for him and I’m wondering if I should throw away what we have because of it. I’m so confused!

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  • 5 months ago

    Breaking into your house crossed the line from stalking to assaulting.   Dump him fast and call the police before you do for advice.

  • 5 months ago

    No, no telling what he might do if you married him and it didn't work out. You should be freaking out.

    • ko5 months agoReport

      So, I guess they should make an effort for it to work out? 😌

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  • 5 months ago

    Your boyfriend seems to have a problem with boundaries.  I might have felt the impulse to stalk someone I liked, but my conscience knew it would be wrong to sneak into her place or steal her stuff.  It's your call, of course, but if you stay with him, I think he definitely should get counseling.

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  • 5 months ago

    There's nothing to be confused about befriending a stalker... helloooo

    Get rid of this guy pronto and change your locks, bolts and move if you can. Scary :o

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  • 5 months ago

    No you should not forgive him you should break up with he. Only a crazy person would do things like that. And stalking is one thing but breaking into your house and taking your stuff is just physco like stalking isn't enough leave him he's crazy .

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  • 5 months ago

    Sure, if you want to continue living with someone who is obviously mentally unstable.

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  • Ya-Hoo
    Lv 4
    5 months ago

    Lol this weirdo is your boyfriend, yet I'm single and can't get girls to return my calls and I act completely normal. Women only like "fixer-uppers"

  • Alan H
    Lv 7
    5 months ago

    At the very least you should talk it through 

    If your relationship goes through a sticky patch, he may revert to his old ways 

    • Edna
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      5 months agoReport

      There's no reason to "talk it through". She needs to get rid of him, before he breaks in again and kills her. 

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  • Helen
    Lv 7
    5 months ago

    Someone who acts this way is not normal or sound of mind. What else is he capable of?

    End it now but make sure to inform the police. You may well need their protection.

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  • 5 months ago

    I think this is to weird. I fear these problems in his mental state will come back to haunt your relationship, some day, and maybe you'd better break it off sooner, rather than later. He may turn stalker again but I'd break it off, this guy has some serious issues.

    • jj5 months agoReport

      slum hi how are you, how old are you

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