Is it possible to be a lesbian even if u dated a guy in the past?
Or would that mean i’m just bisexual
- LaurenLv 62 months ago
There is this idea of compulsive heterosexuality. It's why some gay people still end up dating ppl of the opposite sex. Like "beards." We try to conform to societal norms or we see that one way is the way everyone is so it must be how we are and so just sort of fall into it.
There is also fluidity in our sexual attraction. Just as there is fluidity in some people's gender identity.
Those are a couple of reasons why a lesbian might end up dating a man before she goes on to exclusively date women.
Also a person who has dated men but is interested in women could be bi. It just depends on how they see things in the future. I concur with another answer on that front.
- Anonymous2 months ago
Sexuality is always about your feeling right now, not last week or month or last year, its about how you are attracted to people right now. So if you did date a man, even if you enjoyed it, then if you feel attracted to only women now, then yes, you are a lesbian. However, if you have been attracted to men but you are attracted to a girl, and you think you could still be attracted by men, then you would be bisexual.
- TeresaLv 52 months ago
Yes, what matters is the present.