Hen Do/Bachelorette party dilemma?
As the girlfriend of the best man I've been invited to the hen party. I know the bride but we're not that close we only really know each other because our other halves are best friends. Dilemma is the groom, best man and "Jim" are a trio of friends but "Jim's" girlfriend has not been invited. I'd feel bad going to the hen do when she's not been invited as I am closer to her than the bride. I would feel more comfortable if she were there as I only know 2 people who are going and I don't know who I would share a hotel room with if she wasn't going. The thing is I don't know if the person who is organising the hen do even knows the "Jim" and his girlfriend exist. Would it be rude for me to ask for her to be invited?
I don't know how well I've described the situation. I'll edit if anyone has questions.
- FireplaceLv 61 month ago
You cannot invite someone to an event which you are not hosting.
- Common SenseLv 71 month ago
Go to the Hen Do organizer and state that you are friends with the groom's friend, Jim''s girlfriend. But before you ask her to share a hotel room with you, you want to know if she is on the Hen Do invitation list. This way, you find out if she is invited...or not. AND, then you can decide if you want to go or not.
A Hen Do overnight celebration is going to cost the atendees hundreds of dollars each,between hotel fees, traveling, entertainment and meals.
I am so glad my friends and I are older and past all of those bridal financial hardship expectations, just because someone is getting married....keeping in mind that 50% of marriages end in divorce. Sorry, I do not mean to e a bummer, but the entitlement issues of some brides and or their planners are ridiculous.
- OcimomLv 71 month ago
Its not your place to invite others to a party. Go to the party if you want to go. If you don't feel comfortable, then decline going. I would hope that Jim's girlfriend is invited to the wedding!
- Anonymous1 month ago
what in the heckaroo is a "hen do"??
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- dripLv 71 month ago
Why are you spending the money to go on this over night hen party? When you really don’t know the bride. If you don’t know the bride well or anyone that will be there politely decline the offer. Thank them for thinking of you
Since you don’t know them well I would not ask to invite another
- Anonymous1 month ago
All you can do is ask. They'll either say yes or no. If your friend comes will you be sociable with everyone who is already invited... I think it's a little rude of you to want to invite your friend to have someone to talk to when the most important people will already be there.
- FoofaLv 71 month ago
I wouldn't make any waves since your connection to this 'do is in and of itself sort of a friend-of-a-friend thing.
- MamawidsomLv 71 month ago
You're mixing up to issues:
1. Whether or not to attend a party when you don't know the guest-of-honor (bride) very well.
2. A person you believe should have been included was not invited to a party that you were and a party that you are not hosting.
Whether you attend or notes up to you. Go. Don't go. The bride doesn't care. Your friend who wasn't invited probably doesn't care. Your boyfriend may care.
You are not responsible for the guest list of a third-party. You are not the arbiter of who should and should not be invited. You are all adults. A true friend is not going to hold it against you if you attend. If you feel guilty, that's all in your head and a choice you can make.
- 熊冰冰Lv 71 month ago
There is no dilemma. It's not your party, and it's not appropriate for you to comment on the guest list. If you don't feel comfortable going (and personally, I think a whole weekend with strangers sounds like Hell) just decline the invitation.
- Pearl LLv 71 month ago
i dont see anything wrong with asking if you can go