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If your female mate told you they didn t know why they were with you after going to their counselor,what do you think is going on?

Do you think this counselor is causiing coflict?

Update:

Would this make you depressed & not give a dam?

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  • 1 month ago

    Counselling views problems from the outside and makes you look at your problem from a different angle so that you can make up your own mind about what's going on in your relationship. Sounds like she's having counselling but you aren't. Why is that if the problem lies in your relationship with each other? Maybe she went to counselling to try and fix it and you weren't willing to? She's viewing everything from another angle and is now puzzled about her feelings for you. Perhaps you should suggest a joint visit to the counsellor might help. It might actually give you a totally different slant on your relationship. The counsellor is unbiased. He/she doesn't take sides in an argument. A counsellor makes you see things in many different ways and you eventually make your own mind up about whatever it is you are being counselled about.

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  • 1 month ago

    People go to counselors, on purpose, because they want to explore issues, feelings, thoughts, situations and already know they have them. So, No, it's not the counselor causing problems! It's the realities. 

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  • 1 month ago

    It is most likely that there was unresolved conflict already there. You can look at this as a step toward bridge building. 

    Talk to your partner. Ask what is wrong. And then work to make things better for the both of you. Sometimes this means ending things, sometimes it will result in a better relationship overall. 

    Counsellors generally have your best interest as a couple at heart (that is what they are paid for) and it is unlikely they are acting maliciously.

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  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    maybe it's the fact that you call her your "mate"

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