Anonymous asked in Social ScienceGender Studies · 8 months ago

What can I do to feel comfortable around women?

So the situation is that I'm a 33-year-old accountant that is not particularly comfortable communicating with women casually. Professionally, I am, but socially/casually, I'm not.

I understand it's very late in my life to attend to this issue but better late than never.I want to do something about it and I understand that it will take time.

So I thought that working at a clothing store, in the weekends, where I face women consistently, where I can small talk, would be the best place to start However, I'm not sure if this is a good or a bad idea because the extent of an interaction at a clothing store might never get past a small talk. But, maybe, initially to get rid of my nerves, this might be a good thing.

I wanted to gather your opinions and see what you guys think. I thought about working at a casual fine dining restaurant, but I'm not good-looking by society's standards and I'm not big either. So that's out of the picture.

Is working at a clothing store a good start to remove some nerves ?

52 Answers

  • 8 months ago

    Truthfully? Don't.

    In the #Metoo era where the way to a woman's heart is through her ego then the appeal wears off near instantly.  Even if you take into account that the only thing a relationship provides anymore exclusively is supposed access to sex, many women are now so lazy in bed that even then men are doing all the work while women just lie on the bed like a corpse or a starfish and avoid eye contact the entire time from start to finish...and then you as the guy can't even feel anything the entire time from her being stretched out by so many other men that ultimately you are having to finish with your hand anyways...

    ...Disturbing in the details i will admit, but this has become the norm for what is available to men in the dating market and thats not even factoring in all the problems if they are a single mother.

    Best advice? Keep doing what you are doing and go MGTOW.  Best way to stay safe is to not start in the first place.

  • 8 months ago

    WOMEN are humans just like yourself and regardless should be treated with respect and will surely cast an image of yourself as a respectful person and as a man,and regardless always speak the truth and be proud of who you are. 

  • 8 months ago

    I would say stop thinking of them as women and just think of them as another person to relate to. It’s difficult to be comfortable around someone when you think of them as different.

  • Anonymous
    8 months ago

    Stop preying on the customer women they know you are working and it is hard for them to distinguish between friendliness of customer service and genuine flirtation.  Instead look to your peers who work with you or elsewhere.  Use their networks to score.  You will have more commonalities.  R.I.P. Kobe

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  • Anonymous
    8 months ago

    Just show them your paycheck stubs. 

  • Connor
    Lv 4
    8 months ago

    Just be yourself and they will approach you 

  • 8 months ago

    I used to know this guy that could pick up women all the time. It was crazy. A group of us went to lunch one time and waitress was very pretty. By the time we were leaving, the waitress was asking him for his phone number ! So one day I asked him, dude how do you do it. His answer was very simple. He said that 9 times out of ten women are more nervous than men. They are human too. That was really it.

    Now you also need to realize it's a numbers game. Some women are committed and won't respond to you. Some may not be looking for a boyfriend, some may not be your type. In the end though the ones that are available you'll have better success when you realize they are just as or more nervous than you. Some judge themselves more harsh than any man would. You'll feel and appear more confident. Go in with that attitude and it will help.  

  • 8 months ago

    Alcohol usually helps. 

  • 8 months ago

    you can use perfume 

  • 8 months ago

    "And what is a weed? A plant whose virtues have not yet been discovered." Emerson

    So your a weed…….Be The Tree.  Notice I did not say A tree I said The Tree. 

    You are valuable, important and like all others have needs. Go Get em.  

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