My mother has dementia and doesn't recognise family members ort understand what's going on at all. Should I send her a Christmas gift?
If I do, it's only because of social convention for the benefit of the care home staff. She doesn't need any items - evrything is provided for her. She is just being kept alive
- Anonymous3 months ago
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- historyLv 74 months ago
If she can use her hands and eyes, send her a card a day for two weeks. Why not? Something pretty to look at that is hers and comes again the next day too? That's a gift of pleasure.
- PAMELALv 74 months ago
You are a nasty person aren't you? she is still your mother!
- kristyLv 64 months ago
No sense in getting her something if she won’t remember
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- DavidLv 64 months ago
Wow, maybe we should call you Scrooge. You are totally ignorant of the spirit of giving. In the true spirit of giving, you wish to do something nice for someone, and expect NOTHING in return. If you don't feel like being nice to someone, then do not give that person a gift. However, I find it really hard to believe that your mother would not understand a gift at all. OK, so she might not mentally process it as a gift. But let's say you give her some of her favorite food. Would she not enjoy eating it, even if she doesn't know where it came from or why? She needs nothing, but what would she WANT if she could express herself? Maybe a nice thick quilt to snuggle with while she's watching TV? Something softer and warmer than the army blankets that they issue at the home? You don't think she'd get any comfort from that, even if she had no idea where it came from, or how or why she came to possess it?
On some level, people do process the feeling of being loved and cared for. They might not be able to express appreciation or even appear to have knowledge. But if you are kind to her, she will sense that on some level. More importantly, if she is neglected, she will also sense that...
People die of loneliness every day. Yeah, there are usually other causes listed on the death certificate. But if you are surrounded by people who love you and truly care about you, then you manage to live a longer and healthier life.
To the OP, I'd say you just ruined my Christmas. I'm in tears now, literally. I feel so bad for your mom that I want to send her Christmas presents...
- CathyLv 44 months ago
No, you should not.
- PegathaLv 74 months ago
Without knowing the exact degree of dementia, or whether she ever has lucid moments, it's hard to say.
Sometimes dementia patients find comfort in things like music, or a teddy bear or baby doll. Maybe the staff could tell you if there's something in particular that seems to comfort your mom or that has comforted other patients in similar condition.
If you live near enough to visit, then having your attention for a little while might soothe her even though she no longer recognizes you; maybe she'd like it if you could rub some lotion on her hands and feet. If I were you, I would still try to do something for her at Christmas no matter how small.
I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. It's horrible to watch a loved one deteriorate and know that it's only going to get worse.
- FoofaLv 74 months ago
Even those with profound dementia have moments of clarity and can recognize a tangible image of loved ones as being important even if they can't always tell you why it's important. So a nice framed photo of yourself either alone or with other family members would be a nice gift. Then when you visit you can tell her who the people in the picture are. She won't remember it from day to day but it'll mean something to her in just that very moment when you remind her these people love her.
- thinkingtimeLv 74 months ago
Pick something personal that your mother might remember, perhaps photographs, and take them in . You never know for sure what people are thinking inside. Never give up on anyone alive. Communication can be worse than understanding.
- glcangLv 74 months ago
Yes, send it. You don’t know as much as you think.