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Anonymous asked in Society & CultureLanguages · 1 month ago

Should I use "mistress" or "madam"?

as a counterpart to Mister. "mistress" seems to be the actual counterpart, but... maybe "madam" is better?

Update:

I know that normal people don't use these words, but I'm asking from an autistic point of view...

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  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    The difference between mistress and madam is that mistress is a woman, specifically one with great control, authority or ownership while madam is a polite form of address for a woman or lady.

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  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    An autistic point of view??

    Long ago, the woman of the house was the mistress, abbreviated Mrs.

    Meaning was lost with the passage of time.

    Now mistress has another meaning.

    The "counterparts" are:

    mister - Mr.

    misses - Mrs.

    miss - Miss

    mizz - Ms.

    Use madam, the counterpart of sir.

    We normally use ma'am, a shortening of madam.

    Source(s): USA
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  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    Mrs. originally stood for mistress. The pronunciation changed to "misses" because it's easier to say. "Mistress" today is most commonly used to refer to a married man's outside girl friend. It is not used as a form of address anymore, even if you're autistic. "Madame" is French for "Mrs." The word "madam" is sometimes used for a female pimp so it is inadvisable to refer to a woman as a "mistress" or a "madam" unless you're on firm ground. However "madam" is sometimes used as a polite form of address to a woman whose name you don't know, as "sir" is for a man. However it's usually pronounced "ma'am," at least in the US. E. g. "Excuse me, ma'am, is this seat taken?"

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  • 1 month ago

    I am not sure whether you really mean Mister or Sir. 

    Mr. Jones and Mrs, Jones if she is married, Miss Jones if she is not, or Ms. Jones in business. 

    Sir and Madam are correct together. 

    Mistress is old-fashioned and never used. 

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  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    In the US: You can use Mrs. [pronounced "Missiz"] if you know the woman is married, Ms. [pronounced "Miz"] if you don't know or don't wish to indicate her marital status, Miss to an unmarried woman or a child [although "Miss" is gradually passing out of use except in rural communities or small towns]. Ms. plus the woman's last name is standard in business. Madam is used to address a holder of high public office [Madam President, Madam Secretary, Madam Ambassador, etc.] Ma'am is an old-fashioned abbreviation of Madam, but is still appropriate in some cases [such as a child speaking to an adult, or anyone to a female monarch].

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    • M.
      Lv 7
      1 month agoReport

      Language with unconventional people is generally unconventional.  (No rules)

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  • Lôn
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    Mistress is rather outdated. Madam is more accepted nowadays.

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  • 1 month ago

    use mistress if you are speaking to a dominatrix and madam if you are speaking to a woman who runs a brothel.

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    • Brisco
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      1 month agoReport

      This is different from "She's a madam", which is a way to try to make a sleazy endeavor sound like it isn't sleazy.

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  • 1 month ago

    You should not assume gender.

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    • RE
      Lv 7
      1 month agoReport

      A.J.: Do you use that expression at job interviews?
      Lôn: In written communications you may not know the gender, whether the name is foreign or  the parents chose a surname for their daughter's first name. There are girls named Madison, Gregory, Mackenzie, or Drew. Is that pandering to deviants?

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  • A.J.
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    Mr. and Ms. was the safe one, but I don't know if they changed it.

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