What do you think of a man that has been hiding to his wife that he smokes?

I have been struggling with my relationship because of my husband’s constant dishonesty.  I recently found out that he smokes and I have confronted him several times and he keeps denying it.  Today he tell me “oh the only thing that happened was that my mother brought me some cigarettes from Spain”.  Obviously if she brought him cigarettes is because he smokes.  I think this is the end because I can’t continue not being able to believe what he says.

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  • RP
    Lv 7
    2 months ago
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    This seems to be more about lies than smoke. If you cannot continue as is and do not want to try and improve your relationship, then your only option may be divorce.

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  • 2 months ago

    i am actually thinking about what kind of woman would ask such a stupid question on line and expressing empathy towards the husband.  God help him

    • Mye Love2 months agoReport

      Empathy for constantly lying?  You are right what kind of woman would allow her husband to lie about everything for 13 years?

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  • 2 months ago

    A man that is hiding his smoking from his wife is hiding it because as an adult he has a right to smoke and she thinks nagging him to stop will make it easier to quit. At least he is considerate enough not to smoke in the comfort of his own home or near you if he is "hiding" it.

    • Mye Love2 months agoReport

      Well the issue is not the cigarettes is the constant lying of everything.

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  • 2 months ago

    I can smell a smoker from 5 paces away.  If you had got through a single date with him then you would have known he was a smoker years ago.  Therefore I cannot believe your question.

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  • Tepee
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    I think it's his business and not yours or mine.

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  • glcang
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    Tip of the iceberg...

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  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    If you can't get over his lies, divorce him.

    It's really not that complicated.

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  • mokrie
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    If lying about having a cigarette is the biggest problem you can name then the problem in the marriage is you.

    • Mye Love2 months agoReport

      No It’s not the least of the problems.  It’s being honest with me and everyone else.  I feel like I can’t believe anything that he says.  

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