How to deal with fear after a misscarriage?
I had a misscarriage about 6 months ago. It was very traumatic because I was already 18 weeks and 5 days when we found out our baby boy's heart stopped beating. I have 2 healthy children a 5 and 2 year old so that would have been baby number 3 for us. We were super exited, planning gender reveal, all of our friends and family knew. We decided to try again since the testing didnt show anything that stopped us from trying and my OB said I was perfectly healthy. I am now 10 weeks and 3 days pregnant with our rainbow baby but I cant shake the feeling that something is gonna go wrong. Unlike my last pregnancy in which I had a lot of bleeding during the first trimester I have had no bleeding at all this pregnancy babys heartbeat is perfect and we even saw baby move already. But as the pregnancy progresses I am more and more nervous that we will go through the same thing. I get a little cramping and I start to freak out, I get weird discharge and I freak out. I cant help it, even though everything has been reassuring this time I am always scared.
Is this normal?
Anyone gone through this that found a way to get through the fear?
I love this baby so much, but in a way I feel like its stopping me from fully connecting this time.
Any help would be appreciated.
- Anonymous7 months ago
Gov't is killing you with high frequency electricity.Theotokos VirginMary gave prayers to "Schema-nun Antonia" on how to save aborted babies from hell. If you pray these prayers diligently, aborted babies are released from hell. On each painted nail there are 40 demons. Smoking is censer to the devil.Using foul language calls upon Pagan deities (aka demons); Holy Spirit departs on 7 meters. People who use drugs see demons who cleverly disguise themselves as ghosts and aliens.America will be last country to switch to Euro (antichrist's world currency). Contraceptives = abortion;using contraceptives for 1 year = 5 aborted kids.Miscarriages happen because of high heels; cesarean because of tight pants (second generation cesarean will be infertile).Unbaptized aborted/miscarried/unborn babies burn in hell for until Final Judgement; if pregnant, keep the kid and deliver at home because kids are chipped using IVs and vaccines in hospitals. Dentists and doctors chip patients secretly. 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Lipstick contains cells of aborted fetuses, dog fat, and placenta; human flesh is in McDonalds, Pepsi, toothpaste, antiaging, anticancer, vaccines, perfume, etc.; that's why you should not be using anything that modern society has to offer. You're better off hiding within a 10-12 people group in order to escape Apocalypse. During Apocalypse, Chrtistians will eat dirt from under pussywillowtree as it's filled with tears of Theotokos Virgin Mary; this water will flee if a 666ed person tries to get it. Barcode is Druid black magic curse; QRcode is Mayan curse; when food is scanned, it becomes dead because laser is a substance from demons. Don't go into a UFO to be healed by demons. Green 666 is given by isotope rays on wrist or forehead when people stretch hands to receive small plastic grey card with no name on it (World Passport). It doesn't just have to be during this procedure (could be anything you sign up for or anywhere where there is a secret scanner); biometrics (fingerprints, eyes scan) or getting picture for passport are very dangerous because they could mark you secretly. Gabriel Urgebadze said that they do it on index finger when they scan your finger. Basically, try to avoid new documents at all cost. Police will microchip and isotope ray people on highways. Chipped people will be influenced by computers to take grey plastic card; but when they do, green mark by isotope rays is given on forehead/wrist. Food stores will isotope ray people too. Antichrist will also release prisoners to mark people. Reject 666 at all cost because it leads to permanent hell. If you're about to be marked, pray the Jesus prayer. Hide with Orthodox Christians to escape 666; leave all electronics behind so that antichrist's minions can't track you; burn documents because they're from Satan. The Most Holy Trinity gives you a name during baptism; devil gives an antiname during antibaptism (ex. Social Security Number). People who die with these Satanic documents go to concentration camp in hell to await Final Judgement; once the BEAST Computer is burned down, souls will be released for Final Judgement. That's why you should give back documents of your deceased relatives back to the gov't so that the gov't cancels these digital antichristian names given during antibaptism by the beast system; or just burn these documents because gov't could get upset and could send demons to mark you because of this outright act of defiance. Prophecy from half a millennium ago describes Final Judgement like this: Jesus was very upset with people who had little boards (plastic cards) in their hands because they wanted discount from the antichrist. Give to charity in the name of Archangel Michael; he rescues people from temporary hell twice a year [at midnight September 18-19 and similarly on November 20-21; pray at these times on your knees remembering the deceased by names (adding "and relatives by flesh up to Adam") so that they are rescued if they're in hell] (or brings them up a level, that is, to a level with less punishment; eventually, people are freed). Feed the pigeons; when pigeons bow down, people are saved from temporary hell. It's a big sin to remember the dead with wreaths (because demons put these wreaths on their necks if they're in hell with their hands tied up behind their back while hanging by their hands), meat, alcohol, sweets, and worldly music. Demons print icons of saints in newspapers so that you throw these newspapers in the trash blaspheming these saints. Crosses on soles of shoes and back of pants are blasphemy. Demons make carpets with crosses and put them on sidewalks so that people walk on crosses. Playing cards mock how Jesus suffered on the cross: clubs (cross on which Jesus was crucified), diamonds (four nails Jesus was crucified with), hearts (sponge with vinegar that Jesus was given to drink),spades (spear with which Jesus was pierced).Cremation is devil worship; only blasphemers such as Lenin should be burned; if Lenin is buried, earth will be polluted, and China will attack Russia because of this.After China attacks Russia, Ruski Orthodox Tsar (shown by resurrected Seraphim of Sarov) will come to power in Russia;this Tsar will slay traitors inside church and gov't; as a result, Russia will be the only country not under the antichrist.Ecumenism = 263 heresies;each heresy leads to hell. In 2006 in Moscow (that's why Moscow will sink),representatives from most religions signed a document where it says that all religions worship the same Supreme Being [aka the devil]. Priests who participate in ecumenism will have Pagans walking on their heads in hell. Arkhimandrite Antonin Kapustin left a prophecy that Church of All Russian Saints in Gorny Monastery, Ein Karem, Israel will be blessed by forerunner of antichrist; Patriarch Kirill of Russia and Mark of Berlin blessed this church in 2007. When priests pray for current gov't (instead of praying for future Tsar),Jesus gets up from His throne and turns His back to them. Forgive me.Source(s): Women wear headscarves tied at the front to prevent headaches from sky pushing down and to prevent throat cancer. Mega-tsunami for New York will be 400 meters; then engulfed-in-lava Los Angeles will be flooded too; also, asteroid destroys Gulf of Mexico; only Alaska, Eurasia, and Africa remain (obviously without coasts). 1st big earthquake in Russia; 2nd bigger one in China (will be split in half; radiation!); 3rd biggest will be in the USA (Greek Orthodox monk Elidiy from Africa); forgive me.
- TulipLv 79 months ago
Where on earth has this rainbow baby crap come from?????
- EdnaLv 79 months ago
The chances that you'll have another miscarriage are very low. A miscarriage is almost always what happens when your body recognizes that there's something "wrong" with the fetus and it's not going to develop normally, so your body spontaneously aborts it. In a sense, you could consider a miscarriage a blessing.
- Ranchmom1Lv 79 months ago
I am so sorry for the loss of your child.
It is entirely normal to be scared of the same thing happening. All sorts of statistics can be cited saying that it's very unlikely that it will happen again, but at the heart of it is your heart which was broken when you lost your child, and you are afraid of having your heart break again.
I agree with those suggesting you talk with a counselor about how you are feeling.
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- LizBLv 79 months ago
I haven't suffered pregnancy loss, but I did have to go through fertility treatments for both of my two and didn't really feel "connected" with either of them while I was still pregnant. With my daughter especially I almost didn't believe there was actually a baby in there, despite all I'd gone through to get her. I know it sounds odd, but I wasn't totally convinced she had been in there until they took her out and I could finally see her for myself.
Feeling this way means that at no point in my pregnancies was I able to just sit back and be happy I was pregnant. I was anxious and worried the *entire* time, and deeply envied mothers who had no real issues and could just enjoy the process. But the reason I'm sharing is this: My inability to "connect" with my pregnancies had NO impact on my ability to bond with my children once they arrived. Once I could see them and hold them and know they were all right, that's when the bonding began, and it continues as they grow up.
So point being, I think your worries are very understandable, but please forgive yourself for them! If for the rest of this pregnancy you feel you need to protect your heart some and not grow too attached to this baby, then do what you need to do to get yourself through it, knowing that once you see that precious little face alive and well that it will all be okay. And you *will* love him or her every bit as much as you're able to love your other children. I absolutely promise you that. <3
- Anonymous9 months ago
I have lost 3 to miscarriage so I understand your fears and worries. During my pregnancies, I joined online support groups for people with high-risk pregnancies. My midwife was also very understanding to my fears too which helped. If I called with worries or concerns I was allowed to come to the office and listen to my baby's heartbeat. This was in the late 1990s & early 2000s. These days you can buy a gadget to listen to the heartbeat at home. If I had that back then that would have eased my fears a lot.
Therapy too isn't a bad idea this way you can learn some healthy things to do to help you keep calm and stop the nonstop worry. But, as I said the worry is normal. I stressed and worried till delivery. I went on to have two more kids after my 3 miscarriages.
Congrats and everything should go well.
- Tri-HarderLv 79 months ago
It would be great to continue to consult with the therapist who helped you through the loss. He/she would also be a great resource for handling the logical fear during this current pregnancy.
- MissALv 79 months ago
It's not particularly *logical*, but it's totally normal.
Loss makes you more suspicious that good things won't last. Talking to a counselor/therapist about it might very well help... anxiety and stress are totally treatable conditions, and I suggest you at least try. But possibly the only thing that will work for you is the natural operation of time and distance.
- pearlmarLv 79 months ago
No that isn't normal. I had 2 miscarriages.