Anonymous asked in Society & CultureEtiquette · 4 weeks ago

Was I rude not to hug these former colleagues when they came to work to visit today? We were never close at work?

Both young under 25

Me middle aged woman over 45.

They left 8 and 4 months ago to go another state to work.

They came in to see their “girls” aka “clique”

I was behind a desk and said and waved hello.

They hugged everyone, even a woman my age they didnt speak to.

Whats with that?

About 8 people crowded around them to say hello and hug them

I sat and listened and smiled as expected

But i was busy and had things to do

I was polite to them always when we worked together but we were never “friends”

It would’ve been awkward if i hugged them, was i rude?

They said “bye sally” when they left and i waved and said “bye”

Did i do wrong


One left 8 months ago

One left 4 months ago

6 Answers

  • Jenna
    Lv 4
    3 weeks ago

    You did not do anything wrong and were not rude! You never did hugs before, so hello to acknowledge them was more than polite.

  • Chanel
    Lv 6
    3 weeks ago

    You were not rude cos you were polite and said hello.

    You were not that close to them anyway so do not stress about the situation.

  • `
    Lv 7
    3 weeks ago

    Of course not. They came for a visit. You acted appropriately in this situation.

  • Jerry
    Lv 6
    3 weeks ago

    If you weren't all lovey dovey with them 4 and 8 months ago when they were your co-workers, why would you be all huggy poo with them now? No, you weren't rude. It's not rude to decline to participate in that kind of overly demonstrative phony baloney.

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  • 3 weeks ago

    i dont think you did anything wrong

  • 3 weeks ago

    You behaved in a way that felt comfortable for you and given, by your own admittance, you were not close to these former colleagues, engaging in a hug may have been perceived as inappropriate and embarrassing.

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