Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsMarriage & Divorce · 2 months ago

If a wife expects her husband to keep intimacy and sex inside the marriage BUT withholds intimacy and sex to manipulate, is an affair okay?

40 Answers

  • 1 month ago

    When you get a good answer for that let me know. Mine shut me off cause I call making love, sex a 3 letter word. 7 years later I'm ready to find some intimacy else ware.

  • 1 month ago

    Address why she is withholding sex, for most women(not all) If her emotional needs aren’t being met than she’s definitely not going to want to be intimate with you. If you love your wife you will want to know what is bothering her. Ask yourself what makes her feel loved and do those things. But stepping outside of your marriage is selfish and will only distance her further.

  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    Yes, of course. Marriage is an outdated concept these days anyways.

  • 2 months ago

    its an oxymoron situation that you describe. its very likely that intimacy would be looked for elsewhere

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  • 2 months ago

    Why bring someone else into YOUR problem? That’s not right. Just divorce. Have some morals.

  • 2 months ago

    Not as far as I'm concerned.

    That's like if I have an infected wound, and I'm asking if it's okay to take painkillers and cover it up with a long coat. No. Address the problem. Go to counseling and try to work out what is going on. Or if that doesn't work, get a divorce. An affair doesn't fix anything.

    • roderick_young
      Lv 7
      1 month agoReport

      Given the broad range of human personality, there might be some case where an affair is healing. I've never seen it, though. Every affair I've known about has had an extremely negative the lives of everyone involved.

  • Burgoo
    Lv 6
    2 months ago

    For the wives that is always ok but never for the husbands

  • 2 months ago

    It’s never ok. If you’re not happy, have communicated your feelings and possibly considered counseling, bail out. There are women out there who’d treat you better, and you don’t have to be dishonest.

  • 2 months ago

    Don't worry about it, you will never have a gf or a wife.

  • 2 months ago

    it is unequal inequitable relationship cannot last long

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