What advice would you give to a 22 year old like me who has a hardtime being mindful and present during sex?

Everytime im about to get in the moment there's this voice in my head who becomes to rational and logic during sex. As in "why am i attracted to her curve its just a curve or why am i so attracted to her breast of *** it's just flesh." Or the worst one yet is "alrighy it's a good start im still hard" or "damn i can feel it getting soft so **** it"

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  • Mark
    Lv 5
    1 month ago

    Blindfolded. Seriously, that gets you out of your head and more into your feelings and heart space. Let your partner know that you're doing it to become more in touch with those things - without needing to mention about mindfulness. Maybe even practice with her massaging you first, and describe the sensations as her hands move over you. It doesn't even need to involve sex. Just allowing yourself to talk about sensations as they happen, will help.

  • Josie
    Lv 6
    1 month ago

    Sex is subjective NOT logical.

    Just relax and accept your brain is patterned to see curves

    as sexy and smells as turn-ons.

    Mindfulness has its place but maybe not in bed.

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