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Matthew asked in Social SciencePsychology · 8 months ago

How can I change myself?

I lived my whole life letting people walk over me. Even now, my wife says ****** up things sometimes and I stay quiet while dying inside. I wish I could stand up for myself. Thanks to everyone who has done me wrong, I feel so dead all the time. What can I do to finally grow balls and call people out on their bullshit?

Thanks in advance!

14 Answers

  • 8 months ago
    Favourite answer

    Hi Matthew,

    Please do an assertiveness group where you can role play being assertive

    And standing up to those that seek to rob you of basic human rights, like the

    Right to respect, and it is easy group to do, l did 3, 30 plus years ago and it helped 

    me be the person l am today.


    Very Best Wishes 


    Source:) Groups.

  • 8 months ago

    No need stay silent do what should be done, that's it and it's the best way.

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  • 8 months ago

    New hair loads of different ways to change yourself if your truly that unhappy with who u are.

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  • Anonymous
    8 months ago

    Be prepared for none of this stuff that happened before ever happening when you change yourself. I’m sorry

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  • (A)
    Lv 7
    8 months ago

    Bob Griswold hypnotist has really good cds on correcting personality disfunction.

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  • falcon
    Lv 5
    8 months ago

    Use hypnosis to understand why you are behaving like that

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  • Carmen
    Lv 4
    8 months ago

    It seems like you are a mild mannered person maybe if so sometimes people take your demeanor for weakness unfortunately whatever the case pray for courage to speak up as needed pray for right words to respond as needed pray for peace of mind and to keep a calm heart and pray to be peaceable as far as it depends on you despite others actions

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  • Read some books on communication/assertiveness for starts

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  • i believe a confidence building course and lessons in 'assertiveness' could help you, a lot of times, its all about speaking up and being assertive with people, putting them in their place assertively.

  • zeno
    Lv 7
    8 months ago

    Ever tried baby steps? Pick a moment to

    Humorously oppose something or decline

    Doing it. I refuse to follow dating guide lines

    Like opening ever door for a girl. I only give

    What girls give me in return. When they open

    Doors for me then I will open them for them.

    Same with everything. It's a polite trade negotiation. I don't give them sex when they want it

    Unless they give it to me when I want it. So

    If the withhold anything so will I. It's relationship

    Equality. Only expect from me what you are

    Willing to give me in return. Nothing is free or

    Given without a counter expectation. Oh you

    Want __________ so your willing to give me

    That right? A diamond ring, a new house,

    A new car, etc etc etc... It's a give and take

    Fair trade deal.

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