You have made a deal for him to work so you can stay home so keep faith with that deal. He does not make you come to his work and do SOME of his work. Do NOT ask for him to do ANY of your work at home. Keep house like a widow would have to do. If your man were gone to death or war, you would have to do it alone. So do it alone. Bottles do not have to be washed only while he is showering and he needs that hour in the shower. Working is exhausting. Some babies must cry to be healthy, in order to develop their lungs. Do not try to CAUSE them to cry extra but, if they have to cry some while you wash the bottles, then lay them down gently in their crib and let them cry where they are as safe as possible while you wash the bottles. Try crushing a little fresh mint very crushed and fine for the colic. Crushed small and soft so the baby won't choke on it. Do your best to comfort your babies but sometimes you have to lay them in their crib and pen while you do some necessary work around the house. Just stay calm and relaxed and deal with things as well as you can but never bring up breaking the deal with your man who is doing his part. Supporting the family means the rest should be taken care of by you. An older woman has learned so many shortcuts and it is a shame that there's no-one to teach you hers. Like simple but tasty meals that can be gotten ready and heated up easily before he comes in. Like boiling the lasagna noodles separately (coating cooked pasta with vegetable oil is what keeps it from hardening and you can heat it up later easily) and cooking the hamburger separately and pouring off the grease and then combining them into Lasagna by layering them into a baking dish and putting cheese on the top so that, when you bake it to heat it up, the cheese melts on the top, but you never have to worry about the pasta and hamburger being cooked because they are ALREADY cooked and hot again by the time the cheese melts. Get off your Boyfriend's neck and have the house nice when he comes home to a meal that is ready when he gets in or gets out of the shower and is ready to eat. Let him relax and it will help you relax also. Women are most brilliant when they hold everything together and give the illusion that it is like magically effortless. Not TOO effortless, but still amazing because you do not nag or complain. You can do a lot of prep for meals in pieces during the day and put things together to cook before he comes home. Drain the canned salmon well so it won't be nasty and fishy or briny, and chill it. Wash and chop the celery or drain the relish so it won't be watery. And cover that it a separate bowl from the drained salmon. When you mix it with mayonnaise gradually to taste, it blends better because the salmon and relish were already both drained and cold and you have a nice salmon salad that is not "soupy" or wet. If you are super careful never to leave anything boiling on the stove top and never spill it on your babies, you can boil cheap cuts of pork like Boston Butt Roast for several hours during the day so long as you keep adding water. Set your actual alarm clock as well as the stove top timer for that because it is deadly to fall asleep and let the water boil off and burn it, or to leave and start a house fire. NEVER leave a house without checking that the stove and oven are OFF before you go. If you keep adding water, the pork will never burn and will eventually get much softer than a cheap cut usually is, and leave you a rich delicious stock or simple soup. Let it cool down before you try to dish it out. Too many stupid cooks burn themselves or their children trying to handle big pots of hot stuff. Remember: you can always microwave a portion or a serving at the last minute, so let things cool down before you try to remove them from the stove. By chilling the stock in the refrigerator, the fat will solidify at the top and can be removed later with a spoon. Any pasta you cook, including spaghetti, can be drained and coated with vegetable oil to prevent hardening and then all you have to do is to spoon the sauce over the noodles and microwave it. You can keep cooked drained pasta refrigerated like that for two days. The oil will keep it soft and fresh.