My girlfriend’s very catholic dad found out about us today and we’re lesbian. Please help, we want him to understand but we’ve broken trust.?

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  • reme_1
    Lv 7
    6 months ago

    Contact PFLAG.org- a support group of parents with LGBT kids who reach out to other parents. They will talk to your dad.

    I wish you had mentioned your age. There is a big difference on advice for a 14 year and a 20 year old.

    Your dad's s religious beliefs have nothing to do with what you feel inside. That is who you are. Get some OUT adults to be in your corner for support-:specially the counselor at the gay center.HUGS from a senior lesbian

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  • Anonymous
    6 months ago

    First off - some catholics are very hard line - but many catholics are pretty lgbt friendly. Its mainly the upper clergy that doesnt want gay rights - but the majority of the laity is pro gay rights.

    But it seems her father is a hardliner. If she is a minor she’ll have to cave in to him if he won’t back down. But you just might be able to reason with him over time. If she is not on her own, she risks being cut off financially- but you guys might just be able to work if you are in it for the long haul. You could move in together?

    Assuming you are on your own and paying your own bills - i’d research dignity usa - its a group of gay catholics fighting for gay rights in the catholic church. Also - some parishes do have gay catholic groups - particularly Franciscan parishes. So check around.

    And read up on the official position of the church. The church unlike others accepts gay people - its just that they want is to be celibate for life. That their position in a nutshell - read up on it.

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  • Robin
    Lv 7
    6 months ago

    what trust ahve you broken and to whom

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  • 6 months ago

    "Broken trust."

    Are you mad. What trust are you talking about.

    Would you expect he should seek out a man simply because your gay. No. So why should you simply because that's what is right for him.

    Not much point in even having your own freedoms and space as an adult if you intended to life only as he approves.

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  • 6 months ago

    If you are over 18 you can continue as you are. So if he prefers to stay angry, he will just have to live with it.

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