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How to message a guy you don't know too weel?

I used to go to school with this guy, but recently we have all separated to go to university etc and I only got chatting to him on our last big group night out together.

I don't know him that well but he showed a slight interest in me and was lovely. I have him on snapchat but we've never talked. I really want to message him but don't know what to say. I want it to be more subtle than just saying "hey", and nothing significant happened when we went out for me to ask him about or mention. What should I say?! xx



1 Answer

  • 8 months ago

    Keep in mind, that your Best Friend was once a Stranger until you met and got to know each other.

    Dating is a good way to get to know someone.

    You can become Good Friends or MORE,

    if you are Compatible and Interested.

    Never ASK someone for a Date.  

    Asking puts a person on the defense of HAVING TO MAKE a decision and giving you an answer.  

    Most people say NO, because No is SAFER for them.

    Later on THEY MIGHT regret they said No and feel like they blew their chance with you.  

    If you INVITE someone to join you somewhere, they have time to think about it without pressure and can make a decision without giving you an answer/response.  

    To get a date without asking: 

    INVITATIONS and ASKING for a Date are the same thing, 

    but an invitation is easier to offer, rather than ask for a date. 

    Writing a note and handing it to him or having someone 

    hand it to him, will be okay. 

    Most invitations are in WRITTEN FORM. (add ph# so now He has it) 

    Texting also works, if/when you get their number. 

    Tell him where you will be on a certain day and at a certain time. 

    Let him know he is welcome to join you if he has time. 

    EXAMPLE: "Hi. I'm going to be at the park by the pond on Saturday at 2:30pm. You're welcome to join me if you have time. I will probably be bored, just feeding the ducks". 

    EXAMPLE: "I'm going for ice cream after school / work at (location), you can join me if you're not busy. My treat." 


    It was just an invitation, NO BIG DEAL. 


    Make wager (bet) with the person you want to spend time with. 

    Lose that bet to them INTENTIONALLY. 

    The wager should be something that puts you together alone and 

    away from everyone you know. 

    Make the wager something you can afford and non threatening 

    or too suggestive. 

    (an ice cream cone, a milkshake, a coffee, even washing a car) 

    EXAMPLE: "I'll bet you an ICE CREAM SUNDAE, I can say 

    the alphabet backwards faster than you." 

    Then LOSE the bet and take him for an ice cream sundae. 

    (enjoy your Date) 

    If it scares you to take these steps, keep in mind YOU'RE SCARED ANYWAY. 

    Also if some other girl gets his attention, you'll wish you had done SOMETHING. 

    CONFIDENCE is not about Succeeding. It's about NOT BEING AFRAID, 

    to Step Up, whether you get Accepted or Rejected. 

    After you get Accepted or Rejected, YOU WILL "Quit" 

    Torturing yourself with Worry, Curiosity and Desire. 

    But Don't Live in FEAR of the person you Desire. 

    Get Accepted or Rejected, but settle this FOR YOU. 


    IF HE SAYS: "I don't want to ruin our friendship OR I just wanna be friends” 

    SMILE BIG, look him in the eye and say: "Then don't “F” this up for me."

    Or explain to him. "We can still be friends if this doesn't workout. 

    Why would we HAVE TOO be enemies, just because we are not a match?" 

    KEEP SMILING... He will like that you are Confident... AND RIGHT... you don't have to be enemies… besides 

    Getting to know people is how FRIENDS ARE MADE. 

    Dating is a way to get to know a person.

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