Is it normal, common, for people to lose friends during the teenage years, or after high school? to grow apart, drift apart, lose touch?
As in, is growing apart, drifting apart, going your separate ways, losing touch with childhood friends during the teenage years or after high school, is it a normal, common part of life?
Just asking, because it happened to me, I want to know if this is not an unusual situation at all, do the majority of childhood friends not last into adulthood?
- boystownhotlineLv 75 months ago
It is normal for people to lose touch with high school friends after they graduate.
We chose different paths- college, sometimes out of state, jobs, moving away to start our adult lives. So, yes it is common to lose touch.
If you have a close friend that you ve spent a lot of time with while growing up, making an effort ( on the part of both people ) to stay in touch can work when you live in different states.
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- 5 months ago
Common sense should tell u its completely normal.. everyone has their own separate lives.
- FoofaLv 75 months ago
That's not unusual. School aged kids see each other every day and tend to have similar interests because they just don't have that many options. But as we age we collect romantic partners, sometimes have children have to move away for jobs, etc. It's actually not that normal that someone would have the same set of friends from Kindergarten until death. Life just moves us in different directions.
- 5 months ago
Yes I think it happens to everyone, I think it’s unrealistic to think a friend you’ve met as a kid or teen Will always be in your life but maybe there will be a few good friends that do always stay with you.
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- atomic fireballLv 65 months ago
Pretty normal it seems. Here, anyway..
- hillbillyLv 75 months ago
Few people all stay in contact with childhood friends, as life carries each in his own direction. I, for one, went (was forced) into the U.S Air Force in the North Koran war, and then got married, went to college, and became a teacher, etc, and by then, I didn't know where all my friends had gone.
- choko_canyonLv 75 months ago
Yes, entirely normal.
- Orla CLv 75 months ago
Very normal. Happens a lot.
- 5 months ago
Everyone always says you have a big friendhsip group once at school but then when you leave they all drift away and it's true, you loose contact because everyone goes their separate ways but the ones that want to stay in touch with you will, it all depends on you and them if you want to keep in touch then you will and you will carry on into adulthood, I left school around 3 years ago now and I drifted away with most of them and only started speaking to the ones who were on my course at college after, but i have friends that do something completely different to me and we stll stay in touch because we put in the effort and make time for each other even though we are busy, everything can last but only if you try and make it last:)
- tonyLv 75 months ago
Just like in romantic partnerships, friends can find themselves drifting apart suddenly, without explanation or recourse. In some cases, two friends can come back together in time but in others the drift pulls friends so far apart that their friendship is over...We're all too busy, our schedules don’t sync up, and then the inevitable happens: we grow apart. It ends either abruptly or subtly via text message or face-to-face followed by being deleted on Facebook and unfollowed on Instagram. Similar to a break-up, the ending of a friendship occurs because of the undesirable characteristics of friends and the differences between friends,Source(s): Outgrow Each Other