My husband doesn’t want an open marriage?

Question

I find the idea of an open marriage to be a lot more Freeing and liberating. Unfortunately now that I’m married I realized that I’m just not meant to be with one man my entire life. I have always been open to new things sexually with my husband so I don’t understand why he is turned off by the idea of opening our...

Answer 1

That's what happens when your married. Can't force him to change his mind. Gotta find other ways to get your frills. Suggest 3some - with another girl.

Answer 2

OK I have seen women like you,,, they always regret it

but if you want to try some minor movement,,, invite a girl friend to a threesome
most men will be OK with that not a other mans unit in his wife ever
slow and careful on the second women
if he is not ready do not force it on him
have her over several times for just a visits
have her then wear suggestive clothing maybe give him some panty-less dress shots or no bra open top etc
even have her make a pass while your in the other room

If this does not work for you,,, yep divorce
stay away form other men

that leads to a question is the stay married a money thing? you need his money?

Answer 3

An "open" marriage is not a marriage - its permission cheating. If you cannot be faithful to the ONE man you married, then divorce him and sleep with who you want. And "open" marriage will soon be NO marriage - its a slow poison. It won't "improve" your marriage at all - it will destroy it.

Your husband deserves to find a more faithful wife.

Answer 4

No normal person would want open marriage

Answer 5

My husband had three open marriages that were burned up and ruined by the time I met him when he was 37. He was damaged goods. Took years for him to heal. We didn't marry until we'd been paired 5 years. We've had a monogamous marriage over 3x's as long now as all his "open Marriages" combined. We're happy together. Cherishing each other even more with time.

On the other hand, I didn't wed until I was certain that Marriage was something I'd put my all into and help flourish for a lifetime. I'd tried the rest of it all by then and knew what I did, and did not, want to have.

Answer 6

Could be he's happy with just you, which is usually a positive. But some people have moral or religious objections and still others just fear the competition of their partner's other partners. The bottom line is that if he's against this and you're willing to leave the marriage to sow the wild oats (you apparently didn't get out of your system earlier) you'll probably end up divorced. Let's just hope there are kids involved in this.

Answer 7

Because he's not into it although many married people are. We need to accept our partners at face value, and not sit around whining and moaning about their comfort zone.

Answer 8

If he wanted to share or allow you to screw other men, why the **** would he have bothered to get married to you, or obligate himself to you legally? Not a good reason in the world for him to have done so, and you know it. You just want the best of both worlds and want to use. You want other dick, then be a grown up, pay your own way, face your own issues, deal with the consequences and so on. You want to have a safety net.

Answer 9

Most normal men are not interested in sharing their wives with other man. there you go, now you understand

Answer 10

Divorce him and find a man who wants an open marriage. That's what I did.