It's been a long time, but this "he said, she said" story has ruined my family. Who is right and who is wrong?

About 4 years ago, my adult sister Cindy calls me out of the blue saying that our mom(her name is Ann) blabbed a big secret to her kids (my niece and nephew who were 8 and 3 at the time). The secret that our Ann told was that my sisters husband (Derik) was abusing Heroin again (which is true). My sister told Ann... show more About 4 years ago, my adult sister Cindy calls me out of the blue saying that our mom(her name is Ann) blabbed a big secret to her kids (my niece and nephew who were 8 and 3 at the time). The secret that our Ann told was that my sisters husband (Derik) was abusing Heroin again (which is true). My sister told Ann not to ever tell anyone, but my sister claims that she told the grandkids.

Our mother Ann claims that is not what happened. Ann claims that my niece approached her and asked her why her daddy had been acting strange lately. Our mother claims that because her granddaughter asked her, she decided to tell her the truth because she felt that she needed to know.


Because my sister Cindy felt that our mother Ann told these kids a private home matter (that she felt the kids were too young to understand and also since she told Ann not to tell and she did anyway) Cindy went ahead and told Ann that she was never allowed to see her grandkids again.


This was 4 years ago, and our mother Ann has been a mess ever since. Cindy still doesn't let Ann see her only grandkids and claims that what our mother did was beyond horrible.

Their stories are different and its difficult to know who to believe. this has ripped our family apart. Any help you can offer us would be great as I still try to reconcile with my sister and mother to start talking again.
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