Husband always says “stupid” or “no brain”?
Hi i am 26 and married with 48 years old man, what do you think if a husband always says stupid or no brain to his wife only because of small problems, like i am telling him about decoration idea for the room, and when he doesn’t agree with my idea, he will says “you stupid or no brain” and blablabla, and same when i made even very small mistakes, do you think he actually has right to say that to me?
- SW-6Lv 61 year agoFavourite answer
Gurl you are a strong one than me to put up with any man calling me stupid or no brain. ANd I gotta say, he is correct in his summation of you if you stay and put up with it. No disrespect to you, but I always wonder why women settle for garbage as if these S-holes are the only men on earth. There are a gazillion other men out there who will do right by you from the start till the end. Think about your future, your dignity, your life. If you think so little of yourself that you would stay with a man who is so disrespectful to you, then stay and get yelled at. IF you find some "ovaries" and decide you deserve better than this - leave his raggedy behind and concentrate on the respect and good lie you deserve. Good luck to you :)
- TjLv 71 year ago
Maybe it time to divorce him and have your lawyer rack him over the coals.
- AnaLv 61 year ago
He shouldn’t call you names! But, to be fair, if you’re dumb, maybe leave most of the ideas up to him
- sheloves_dabluesLv 71 year ago
Of course not. But he will continue to belittle you as long as you allow it.
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- PatriciaLv 71 year ago
You're allowing it, so you've given him the right to say what he wants.
Set some boundaries
- 1 year ago
Nah he doesn’t have nothing, i married him because i love him
- J MLv 71 year ago
Get rid of him.
- Brenda MorrisLv 61 year ago
He is overriding his maturity to his own fault. Probably developed this habit in school and never learned to respect other people's views when not in agreement. I would feel hurt by his comments and pity for his lack of maturity.
- .Lv 71 year ago
That's unacceptable from anyone, however people will treat you in the manner you allow. Let him know that you most certainly are not stupid, you do have a brain, and if he really thinks so poorly of you then why did he marry you?
Is yours an arranged marriage? If not, then you should make it clear you won't spend the rest of your life being talked to like that. Perhaps couples counseling would help, although he sounds like someone prone to insulting anyone he disagrees with or who disagrees with him.
- PAMELALv 71 year ago
No, but he is far too old to change, you have 2 choices, put up with his nastiness or divorce the jerk.