I think that it also borders on manipulation and emotional abuse. I'm going to just use the umbrella term "unhealthy".
Unhealthy: willing to harm your emotional wellbeing, self esteem or risk your safety as long as she gets the end result she wants
Healthy: gives an explanation (even if its short) &reasonable punishments (taking away games, turning off WiFi/data, grounding, no allowance)
Unhealthy: again, willing to harm your emotional well-being and self esteem to get results she wants, not at all considering the factors of your life (what kind of girls are in your orbit, are you too busy, are you shy)
Healthy: giving you tips to get a girl, pointing out your good qualities (looks and personality-wise), not putting pressure on you as romance isn't an urgent issue, like at all
Moms shouldn't *ever* make their love seem conditional.
You can suck another guys dick and still not be gay if it doesn't do anything for you. Only you know your sexuality.