How do you overcome losing your soul mate? People say it only happens once?

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  • kim
    Lv 7
    7 months ago

    Loss is hard. Always hard on the heart

  • Anonymous
    7 months ago

    I think you can't.

    I lost mine.

    Change was permanent.

  • 7 months ago

    TwT if he/she died well, TwT. You will always keep them in you're heart. If they leave you well, they were clearly not your soul mate.

  • 7 months ago

    There is no such thing as a soul mate. It may feel that way when you are in the throes of being in love, but that isn’t how it works.

    Falling in love is a BIOLOGICAL experience. It lasts just long enough to conceive, bring to term and then wean a child. This is a scientific fact. In many cultures marraige or single long term relationships are the cultural norm, but that is not where our biology is.

    Time, distance and life going on is how you get over it. Stay busy, spend time with people who love and support you and avoid crappy people. Do things you enjoy and feel rewarded and valued for and go on with your life.

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  • Anonymous
    7 months ago

    I can't stand that term, or "significant other" or "better half". Most people don't fall in love that often over their lifetime, and that's why breakups or deaths are so hard to endure. Time is the best healer because feelings should fade after a while, though not forgotten. We always remember significant events in our life, but we learn to accept and overcome the sad or bad ones. Keep yourself busy so you have less time thinking about your sorrow. Your life will get better and you'll be back to normal functioning eventually. It's your decision as to how long you want to be sad for.

  • Janet
    Lv 7
    7 months ago

    Most people do NOT have soul mates.

    And most often what we THINK is a soulmate is just a delusional infatuation that will not last .. and will turn out badly.

    Psychologists warn us that the stronger the chemistry is at first, the worse the relationship will be.

    And, oddly enough, ancient yoga recognized this in a different format. They called it "soul mates". Two souls who agree to be mates through several lifetimes, always seeking each other out and "recognizing" the bond when they meet up again.

    And the reason these two souls make this contract is because they want to speed up their spiritual growth. Which means giving up on things of the world. So the closer two people are, the more they hurt each other. And the purpose of soul mate contracts is to make each other SO miserable, yet too obsessed to break up .. that they more-quickly give up on romantic love and turn to seeking God instead.

    But, according to yogic philosophy, MOST of us do NOT have soul mates.

    If you are not completely over a breakup within a year, talk with a therapist because you lack the tools TO get over them. Normally, it should only take 4-8 months to get over someone.

    And the truth is that ALL it takes to develop a strong lasting love is that both are whole and happy, both intend to nurture love and loyalty and respect, and they understand that love doesn't grow right away, but takes 2-3 years to start, and another 20 years to blossom. And it NEVER has that desperate obsessive quality of infatuation except maybe for the first year or two (so often called "in love" or "soul mate").

  • Anonymous
    7 months ago

    It's no such thing as a soulmate. It's never a guarantee that it will last a lifetime when you get with anyone. Things change and people change and just sometimes it works out in a way that two people last a lifetime but it definitely took two people willing to stay together and that has nothing to do with them being soulmates.

  • IOM
    Lv 7
    7 months ago

    There is no such thing as a "soul mate".

  • 7 months ago

    Have a kid

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