Friend, you are a stronger person than me to put up with this mess from any man. The way I see it, life is short and I am going to enjoy it as much as I can. So if I can do everything in my power to make you happy, respected, satisfied and fulfilled, you better do the same for me. I know I want to look back my life with as much joy and happiness as possible If this is the way you think you deserve to be treated, the way you are ok with feeling, and the way you picture your life with this man - god bless. Just let me remind you that you deserve better and that there are a gazillion other men out there that will do right by you. Why you would put up with this is beyond me. So you decide - Good luck to you.