- you need him to make your day feel whole and okay
- you are not happy when all you have is your own company
- you are fearful about your ability to support yourself in life and make good decisions
- you are not happy and/or you lack self-esteem and self-acceptance
then yes you ARE need inside and your actions WILL be needy.
And sooner or later that will threaten the relationship.
He is not here to entertain you, nor to make you feel better about yourself, your life, or your day.
Love is not attachment and not an emotion ..these feelings are selfish and are actually WHY relationships end.
Love is accepting the person as they are, and if you do not find them acceptable, then you need to break up .. OR you will end up losing them.
And if they are physically abusive, then you DO need to break up. Otherwise, it is a matter of how toxic-vs-kind they are AND a matter of how well YOU work with your own emotions and are complete as an individual.