You ask if it's your fault, and I don't even know what that means. None of this is something you'd blame yourself for!
However, it sounds to me like you're almost being too analytical (I have this to a fault). You end up sabotaging yourself by predicting outcomes you don't want, but you know you'll do them anyway. Stop with that.
Sure, it's easier said than done, but families are scattered everywhere these days. Most people manage a trip back home without being afraid they'll forget to leave! If you've thought it through and really love it in NY, then it's just a matter of planning the logistics of going to GA. You could do this over a long weekend, pack up your stuff and have it sent to you UPS ground. If there's too much, check costs of renting a small Uhaul trailer and make it a road trip. It would be fun if you found someone to do it with you, and you can get there in 2 (long) days.
See what I'm trying to say? Start focusing on ways to get home and finish up there, rather than all the reasons you'll get trapped in GA. That won't happen unless you legit change your mind and decide you prefer it there (which doesn't sound likely).
· 4 months ago