Having trouble trusting my husband....?
I have always had extreme anxiety and can be pretty overbearing and controlling (I am in therapy working on it). But, my husband has done some things, too.
About 10 years ago a close friend of ours texted my husband inappropriately. He told me and we stopped hanging out for a while. Then I thought I was over reacting, so we talked it out and she apologized and we hungout again. My husband has known her since childhood and she has always had a crush, but never the other way around. A few years later, right after we were married, I went out and my husband got very drunk at home. She was texting him (I believe she started it because my husband isn't like that and from what I remember) and he responded to her a few times. I know this because when I got home I saw her texts when my husband was asleep and I confronted her. Their conversation was very inappropriate but they never met up or did anything. I was furious and it took a lot of time for me to trust him again, but everything worked out.
Fast forward to now. My husband was away on a trip to a hockey game. While there he met a bunch of guys from another city he had a lot in common with and went out. His phone had no service so I wasn't able to get ahold of him so I went to bed. He called me very late and said he was just getting in, he had had too much to drink, and he Uber'd home and would call me in the morning.
I am driving myself NUTS.
Do I trust him?
What do I do?
Do I let all my insecurities from the past not trust him or do I move on?