What was your personality before? Talkative and want to be around people all the time? It's your choice if you want to be a loner or not, just as long as youre happy. If your not, its time to make changes, take baby steps, just say hi to complete strangers to get use to talking to people. Small talk, even though you think its stupid and most people find it dumb, but youd be surprise how much you talk when you small talk. It might be a fake hi, but once you start talking, you develop a great, real, conversation with someone. For example, I don't like going by myself to eat, but i sure wanted to eat at IN/Out (burger joint in CA) and sat next to this guy. We small chatted for a bit, but later found out that he just moved from the coast and was going to start working as a therapist for juveniles. Before that, he was a prist and before that, he was a violinist in Washington State. Funny thing is that IN/Out is a local thing and wanted to explore the area, since he only lived in a smaller town near by for only a few years before he went off to Canada to get a Master in Psychology. Point is, its your attitude towards life that defines your personality, also your experience. While he too came to the restaurant by himself, his personality shows that hes a really social guy with a lot of life experience. Its up to you how you want to define yourself.