Anonymous asked in Society & CultureLanguages · 9 months ago

In French, do you call your spouse "tu" or vous?

You are the same age, have been married for 5+ years. Would you call them "tu" or "vous"?

10 Answers

  • Anonymous
    9 months ago

    Tu is preferred!

  • Leda
    Lv 5
    9 months ago

    Very often the use of 'vous' between spouses is considered a class-based tradition. usually the upper-classes.

    Their children are also not allowed to address their parent with 'tu'. Only 'vous'.

  • 9 months ago

    Tu. How long you've been married and your relative ages don't matter. Vous is for strangers, clergypeople, and superiors.

  • MARK
    Lv 7
    9 months ago

    I would consider you to have a strange marriage if you addressed your spouse as 'vous'. Your spouse and other family members would be 'tu'.

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  • Lôn
    Lv 7
    9 months ago

    Most people wpuld use 'tu'.

  • Anonymous
    9 months ago

    There was a time, long ago, when spouses addressed each other as vous, possibly to set an example for their children, who also respectfully used the vous form with their parents and grandparents.

    We had something similar in English, in which the parents affectionately called each other Mr. X and Mrs. X, especially in front of the children. I seem to recall that format from Dickens. I have also known Mexican children from rural areas who kept the older customs and formally addressed their parents as usted, kissing their hand when saying good night.

  • 9 months ago

    ' Tu ' is familiar, we say it to people we know well and for for talk to a kid.

    We use ' vous ' which is formal, for talk to people we don't know well or if they are many ( even when we know them well), since ' vous ' is also the plural for ' tu '.

  • Anna D
    Lv 7
    9 months ago


  • Tangi
    Lv 7
    9 months ago

    You use "tu" when :

    - you and the person know each other very well

    - you are close to the person

    - the other person is a peer is a domain and you want to emphasize that

    - the other person is very young

    - the other person is actually an object or an animal

    You use "vous" when :

    - there is more than one person

    - you don't know the other person

    - you want to show deference or distance from the other person.

    So, in the case of a married couple, unless they are really stuck up or it was an arranged marriage, obviously, you "tutoie" your spouse.

  • ???
    Lv 4
    9 months ago

    Vous is the plural version of tu

    • Pontus
      Lv 7
      9 months agoReport

      although true, it is more complicated than that. Look at Tangi's answer.

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