Should my daughters stepmother be discussing my daughter's college education with her and where she should go to school?
To me this is sort of kind of stepping over the boundaries me and my daughter's father should only be the ones discussing these things with my daughter and not the stepmother please tell me if I'm wrong she's telling my daughter where she should be going to college and she should be living with them
- GEEGEELv 711 months agoFavorite Answer
Your daughter needs to develop a voice and tell the step mother that she's not interested in discussing this topic. Repeat as needed. Something like "thanks but Mom (you) and I have this covered but thanks anyway."
- 11 months ago
I don't see a problem with it.
- linkus86Lv 711 months ago
EDIT: Sure. She is just trying to be helpful.
What the stepmother shouldn't be doing is making any decisions for the child. If your child doesn't wish to discuss the issue, she needs to speak up. If she continues anyway, then you have a reason to be angry.
You can't cross a boundary until its been set, and clearly you, your ex-husband or your daughter has never set one in this regard.
- LitaLv 611 months ago
She's part of your daughter's life. She doesn't get a say in your daughter's life but she absolutely has the right to express her opinion. Back off a bit.
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- edwardLv 711 months ago
What’s the issue here? What does dad think? It’s a third opinion, she sounds more like a school advisor than a parent here anyway. When i was graduating there were schools who sent me acceptance letters where i hadn’t applied. There was no question to me where i was going to university but it never hurts to get a second opinion
- 11 months ago
She is probably just trying to help her
- Katherine WLv 711 months ago
You're wrong. You're also being petty. How about appreciating that your daughter has another adult in her life who cares about her?
- PearlLv 711 months ago
shes probably just trying to help and dont realize shes doing sonnething you dont want her to do
- Anonymous11 months ago
Keep your head in your a s s most of the time?
- megalomaniacLv 711 months ago
As far as I'm concerned she should discuss that with anyone she trusts. You can give advice to adult children but you can't force it on them.