Would this help people have happier marriages. If Teenagers will only date the opposite sex for the purpose of deciding if they want to?

Question

marry them. Once 2 teenagers decide they want to get married they will be allowed to do whatever they want together before they get married.

Answer 1

If you want a happy marriage it needs to be a lot more than just love, which is what most teenagers don't understand. Beyond that teenagers are not in a position in life to know how capable themselves or others might be when they are on their own (outside of parents\school), so any spouse they may chose is an educated gamble at best. Regardless teenagers will pretty much do what they want anyway within reason so it's not like parents have much to gain by enabling even more freedom that could risk their future.

Answer 2

teenagers are already having sex if that is what you mean by doing what they want together. and they are not ready at 16 years old to make a lifetime commitment.. so no that would not create happier marriages

Answer 3

NOPE

Answer 4

So, funny thing about teenagers. Their brains are still developing. In fact, the human brain doesn't finish developing until a person in their early-mid twenties. This includes things like impulse control, forward thinking, problem solving, decision making, being able to adequately determine whether a situation is safe/dangerous, and a lot of other extremely important things adults need to know how to do.

Teenagers (particularly those under the age of consent) have no business deciding who they'll be with for the rest of their lives. I thought I was going to marry the boyfriend I had when I was seventeen. Looked him up ten years later and, guess what? He's homeless with a felony conviction. Not great judgment on my part at seventeen. Really glad I didn't marry that dude.

Wanting to get married means very little when you're a teenager. You don't have the mental capacity to think through the long term consequences of getting married, much less whether you're with the right person.

Answer 5

Not only no but HELL NO! There are good reasons why teens are usually not allowed to be married in most places. Their brains are still growing but being far outpaced by their hormones.
Teenagers are usually far from the level of maturity to decide if they can commit to school subjects, sport clubs/teams, tv shows or whatever let alone having the maturity to know if they are able to commit to a marriage for a lifetime. Nor do they have the life skills to know if the other is a good choice in Husband/wife either.
They might think that they are but I can almost guarantee that a twenty five year old them would shake their heads looking back at their teenage selves. Saying you want to "marry them" and that giving them permission to do "whatever they want together" is a sure recipe for disaster.
How many teens would become parents well before they have passed out of childhood themselves? How many would use this just to facilitate sex? How many more broken hearts would occur by allowing this? Allowing them to make bad decisions and hoping that they learn from them is hardly good parenting.

Answer 6

No. In fact, that's a stupid idea.

Answer 7

Not a bit. In fact, people who marry very young have the highest divorce rates. Choosing a life mate as a teenager, when most people don't know who THEY are going to become in another decade, rarely turns out well.

Answer 8

teenagers already do that, and they still break up by the time they start college. and girls still start sleeping with other girls in college.