Start planning now for how you will pay your own way when you turn 18 and break away from your parents and family. Until then, you are stuck with what your parents require you to do. I expect that they are paying your tuition, housing, etc. for now. But you have time to learn the important things you will need to know to function on your own, as an independent adult. Like learning how to cook, do laundry, handle a checking account, find transportation (like either buy a car and pay for the insurance and gasoline yourself, or use the local bus lines). Get a part-time job to start saving up for your rent deposits and car purchase. Forget about shacking up with your boyfriend. Guys primarily want two things: Sex and Free Maid Service. You think you have it hard with roommates and family? Wait until you have an unexpected baby that you have to take care of for the next 20 years, with or without the baby's father. I've seen too many guys run the other way when they are suddenly saddled with a pregnant girlfriend and the prospect of a creaming baby demanding all their attention. Focus on your college degree and getting a good job to support yourself. Everything else is superfluous at the moment. Your challenges with family can be considered a lesson in patience and diplomacy.