I need more details about this "abuse" he's displaying. The man isn't here to defend himself, and there's minimal details/examples of his behaviour to conclude abuse. You say u have affection issues.. can u elaborate?
My best friend dated a girl when they were your age, she was his 1st gf - He is by no means an abusive person (Now or then). They saw each other excessively during the first few months, until one day she said she wanted to spend the weekend watching sports with her friends. My friend was insecure about it and she was thrown off. She deemed him as this pathological controlling, possessive, abusive bf. She dumped him over the phone &told all her friends when they asked what happened-He was crushed. While everyone was deeming him psychotic maniac, I just saw my friend as this young rosey-eyed boy who wanted to see his gf as much as possible, but acted immaturely in a situation.
U r kindof just saying your bf is abusive,and everyone is passing judgement the same way