Not really sure what you mean by "upper hand". I am a frequent user on here too, bicurious, but frankly I don't read other answers as a general rule. I just answer the questions I see that I can respond to, and rarely look to see what others have said. Occasionally I will check what other people said if it is a particularly unusual or even bizarre question just to find out what other people thought to respond. But otherwise, since I don't read many answers I don't have a handle on who is answering more questions-- straight, gay,bi.