Divorcing my husband:
It made me finally take a hard look at how being so "understanding", "forgiving" and "Christian" also made me easy pray for the S hole I called my "life partner" to take advantage of that good nature. He took me for granted, cheated numerous times, fathered another woman's child, stole from me, etc. I had enough after I found the brief case with all the "momentos" he kept from his affairs and then the other woman found out he was paying her no mind along with their child so she started harassing him and then me. My mom told me at the time I was contemplating divorce that "a man is going to treat you the way you let him". So I learned from that experience to remain good natured but to not ever ignore bad behavior, be used, settle, or get less than what I truly deserved. I.E. - keep it in check.
Good luck to you :)