Don’t apologize. Entropy is an endless source of confusion. There are a number of equivalent ways of looking at entropy, the idea of order/disorder is just one of those ways. I think entropy is much easier to understand from the standpoint of it being a measure of useable energy of a system. That way it makes sense from the standpoint of the actual physical laws of the universe.
The laws of physics act in a way that minimizes the amount of useable energy available to do work - perform actions - in a closed system. You can think of useable energy as energy differentials, as those differentials are able to do work within the system. From a thermodynamic standpoint, if you have hot and cold identical objects in the closed system, energy will move from the hot objects to the cold objects until there is no differential in thermodynamic energy. Note how this is equivalent to going from order to disorder - you can order them from hot to cold when at different temperatures, but they can’t be ordered when in thermal equilibrium. You can also use this idea for gravitational fields and other sources of energy.
In an open system, like a person, planet, or whatever, energy transfers can occur in many ways. Simply eating something provides useable energy to your body so it can perform work, but as you perform work, you lose energy to the environment through heat, etc. You don’t get younger simply because you ate something.
The relationship between entropy and time is also a little confusing since it is often said to give time a ‘direction’, the so called “arrow of time”. But, it has limited meaning since one doesn’t reverse time by going from a higher to lower entropy state.