My 17 son has come out to me as gay.?
He told me in the car on the way back from his college. He sort put it to me that he s always prefered guys to girls and that s just how he is. All I could say was "okay" and that was about it. That was earlier today and he s barely spoken to me since. He s up in his room now and hasn t come down since dinner.
I ve always taught my children to value honesty and be open with how they re feeling with me. Me and my eldest have always had a great relationship. My wife and I have had our suspicions in the past, but we sort of left it alone. I always tried to tell myself I wouldn t care if he was. I ll always love my son.
But this has shaken me more than I expected. I kind of always pictured him bringing his wife around for dinner and stuff and having grandchild the "regular way"(sounds stupid to put it like that, I know) This is effecting me more than I thought it would.
I feel ashamed to be struggling with this. I feel like I m letting him down. I haven t told his mother yet, and I m not going to until he s okay with me doing it. I just want to be there for my son, that s all I ve ever wanted. I don t want this to hurt him, and I m not disgusted by it. I ve had gay friends in the past, it s fine. I m not THAT old yet!
I just don t know how to approach it. What do I do? I love my boy so much :(