you're either a feminist or an immature person because you don't know about "etiquette" and you're using the feminist and racist word of "privilege".
Privilege has not been talked about until this last presidential election wherein feminists wanted the oval office.
Men and women can both approach each other to chat. Men don't need to be charming, etc. nor have high social status. Take a look (seriously) at all the married people, a big percentage either are not good looking, never were, or don't attempt to look good yet them meet each other, have things in common, and move forward to marry and have a family.
Men to not need to pay for taking a female on a date, in fact today the first date they usually pay for the meal for themself, but the male still has the opportunity to show her he is an old-style traditional male who has good breeding and uses good etiquette.
You're wrong about most women having that man guys who want to date her, that is unless she's spent herself into bankruptcy making herself look like a model. A smart woman will talk with a few men and then make a choice, if in fact there is a choice in that sometimes she only thinks she has a choice and all three men go away simultaneously and she has to start looking all over again. As for a guy, all he has to do is be himself, speak up either around or with a woman and a conversation begins. A guy doesn't need to put tons of effort into dating.
When a guy buys gifts it's showing his approval, his attention, even if she doesn't like what he bought she knows he remembered her and that's what counts. You don't have to spend loads of money on a gift because all you need is a nice card and take her to dinner or do something nice for her. The old traditional way was that a man would "never" buy a gift for a woman. The very first gift he would buy her is the wedding dress, otherwise he was not obligated to spend money. What he did spend was because of etiquette.
There is no word such as "privilege" or "privileged".