I would probably say the same as you and my husband would probably say the same as your husband.
However, that is like putting more fire to the already burning fire.
It has taken me a long time and I mean a good 26 year's to figure out that silence can be golden in these moments. As hard as heck, when you are burning with self righteous indignation, but sadly, like most men, they do not value the work a woman does at home and I have to say, that business women are the same!
In other words: let him lecture you, because he is annoyed that he has not got his slave working for him and he will soon catch on that is not how marriage works.
The first time I did this, was when my husband, who demands to have animals and yet knows I do not wish for animals said that I had to feed them. Now, I did say to him: why? They are your animals; you choose to have them, so it is your responsibility. He, of course hit back with: too bad, we got them and I haven't time to feed them and for once in my life, I did not respond and he said: they will have to starve then and I still did not respond and 10 minutes later he fed them, muttering: if I didn't they would starve! So, after a while I put a suggestion to him. When you are out working, I will feed them and when you are at home, you feed them and he nodded his head and I have kept to that.
A few more times, I have stayed quiet at his outrageous attitude and it works a treat.
I have just come out of hospital from an operation and whilst I was there, hubby said: I can't wait for you to return, because you will get me to bed at a reasonable time. I just smiled at the absurdity of that. So, I get home and it had gone over the time he said he would come up. So I came down and said in a soft voice that he ought to come to bed, due to work in the morning and he acted like a child and screamed at me as I was walking away. But that man did come to bed pretty fast and as he was getting in, he said: there is no reason to be controversial you know and I fought down a retort and that was the end of it.
It is evident that men just cannot say sorry for their behaviour as easily as we women and so I have learned to accept my husband's apology by his actions and I give him his due, he does take on board a complaint.