Anonymous asked in SportsMartial Arts · 8 years ago

training BJJ for a year and a half, feel like I'm not progressing or if any progress it is very slow?

I feel like I've progressed since when I first started but lately I'm having a "bad season". I feel like little to no progress is being made despite effort into training, having days where I can't get a tap and getting tapped more than I submit anyone. I currently train 3x/wk, 2 of those being 2x/day: Tue and Thur 1-2, and 8-9:30 and Sat 12-1 (is that enough? am I actually putting as much effort in as I think I am after all?) I finished exams a month ago, a bit on and off over exams, missing a few sessions, plus in April I had a personal problems regarding a particular lady friend of mine, so I was feeling down and my head was not all there in other aspects of my life, including training, but now exams are over and with a long uni holiday I can focus on training!!! :D plus I am slowly getting over my personal problems through healing over time and anyway training now helps me forget stuff like that!!!

However, even with a focused mind and effort I am concerned about my progress lately, if anyone suggests exams and personal problems, I would like to point out that I've had bad days like this even before those other obstacles in my life, but now I want to take some concern and do something about it. In the time I've been training I have yet to submit any blue belts or above, however, that's not a problem, in fact, I admire and respect the skills of my senior training partners and take it as learning. The thing that gets me down is when I get dominated by people with as little as 2-3months training or sometimes even their first few sessions! almost like I feel I'm not performing to the standard of someone training as long as I have? The thing is with some fellow white belts and other fairly new people is that they go absolutely crazy in sparring; yanking on my gi, cranking submissions, etc, its seems the case with beginners, the more experienced your training partners the calmer they are. The worse thing is when you get a beginner without a gi who yanks on your gi and it becomes one sided because you have nothing to grab. Tonight I rolled with a beginner like that, he tapped me quite a few times- one was an americana when he was on the bottom in side control after I passed his guard!!! (face palm) he just cranked on my arm and I tapped FRANTICALLY because it felt as if my arm was about to break!!! he then caught me with some other cheap noob stuff like grinding his chest into my face, not a legit sub but was crushing my jaw and nose, even suffocating me! I felt so helpless against s/o who has been training less than me using sheer strength and aggression, not much technique. I feel frustrated with myself almost as if I feel my training has been a waste or I just dont "have it", sometimes questioning whether I will ever make it to blue belt?!?! Maybe I am not aggressive enough? I'm not that type, probably unusual for a white belt lol, on the contrary I try to stay calm and technical, is that what causes me to miss opportunities and feel like a "rag doll" in the hands of more aggressive players?

I also want to compete some day, its been 1.5years now and I want to go for my first, I felt like I needed a little bit more experience when I first got into BJJ so my first year has been just training, learning the ropes, yet based on this plateau I still have some doubts about how ready I am. I feel I will learn and improve more after my first, they say you learn more in competition than just training, is the solution JUST COMPETE ALREADY? It also depends on my instructor, bearing in mind I've recently moved schools due to convenience, and I asked the instructor about competing and he wants me to wait, I think because he doesnt know me well enough yet. He also brought up my performance in sparring, and I dont know if he was being patronising about it (the feeling I got from his tone) yet at the same time he offered help by suggesting private sessions. Also, if aggression is the problem, I have to bear in mind that a tournament will be aggressive and its an issue I need to address, dont want to spend time travelling and even money only to get absolutely smashed!!! lol

Other details: I also want to improve my bottom, any ideas to improve? I'm inclined to top position as its my strongest point but I'm working on starting in guard, yet it gets me in trouble, just keep working on it?

Note: I will not appreciate answers like "give up" and other nastly comments. I have no time for internet warriors and trolls who may not even train themselves! what exactly have THEY achieved or are doing in their lives?!?! I'm sure even the top senior black belts have went through phases like this!!! lol. Plus giving up is far from my aim. I want to continue with the sport as I love it (love all combat sports and even have eventual MMA ambitions), despite the frustrating plateaus. I just want the joy of progressing, medals in tournaments, bel


...t promotions etc. the feeling of improvement and self achievement, even just the feeling of improving from one lesson to the next, not getting stuck in a rut.

4 Answers

  • 8 years ago
    Favourite answer

    First of all this is a really long question :) I think you should just keep going and try not to get discouraged. I remember competing in my first competition and getting creamed. I got on the bottom and just panicked. I got really upset but I didn't give up. I started training harder got my cardio and strength up and even dropped weight (which was my main reason for doing martial arts in the first place) and even when I wasn't training I was on the internet researching different techniques. I just recently won 2nd in a tournament and I'm preparing for another in July. One thing that really helps is watching videos of yourself grapple with other people to see what you are doing wrong. Also go to your instructor and talk to him privately about any concerns you may have. Remember they are there to help you. The most important thing to do is keep training and don't give up. Now stop writing ridiculously long question and get training!!! :)

    Hope to see you in the ring one day!!

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    First thing. People all advance at their own pace don't stop or get discouraged because someone is advancing faster than you. Several years ago one of my teammates and I received our purple belts on the same day now he has a black belt with one stripe and I still haven't earned mine yet.(disclaimer he was living at the academy and is a lot younger and more athletic than me)

    BJJ is one of those things that you just have to stick with. There is an old saying, the person who gets their black belt in Jiu Jitsu isn't the one who is best its the one who is left. The longer you train the more you will notice that most people don't stick around long. The white belt digging his elbow in your thigh to open your guard probably wont be there next month. Stay the course and the new white belts will be admiring your skills someday.

    As for improving your bottom game.. Open your guard there isn't much you can do when you have your guard locked and in half guard always try to stay on your side if your flat on your back your already in trouble.

    Good luck

  • 5 years ago

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  • 8 years ago

    i been doing Bjj 8 years on and off. Bjj is the hardest martial art to get good at with the biggest reward.

    I still have days when i get no subs and then days when im hot. it how it goes

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