Please help me with my sleep anxiety? HELP ASAP!!!?

I know this is a long question but its got a LOT of detail in so bear with it please :D

-----------BTW im 14 years old, teen girl--------------

right, so I'm scared of the dark, well what could be in it anyway and I NEVER go downstairs at night. My main fear is that a random murderer is going to be there or a burglar an they will attack me or my family (silly I know.

I get really scared at night when my mum leaves the room from saying goodnight to me (Im really close to her, and all of my family). I sleep with the light on every night and I have a cat who always sleeps on the end of my bed purring away. Downstairs sleeping with my mum is a dog, friendly to us but very protective so I KNOW i'm safe, but this still doesn't make me feel any better. I always say to myself, nothing bad is ever going to happen to me or my family so stop being silly but to be perfectly honest it doesn't really help.

At the side, bottom of my bed there is a tv. I sleep under the covers every night and peek out of a little hole so I don;t feel claustrophobic and stare at my tv. I do this because from the reflection I can see the other side of the bed and most of the room, but this makes me feel more scared sometimes.

My mum doesn't know how severely I get frightened and I can't keep telling her I've had a bad dream and need to get in her bed all the time. She knows everything about me and I'm always really open, loving and great towards her and we have a magnificent bond like a best Friend but better (i don't have a best friend and really want one but have good grades a fairly good social life and lots of other friends). Because my mum doesn't know - Ive never been to the doctors or anything and just want some advice and help.

-Should I tell my mum?

-Is there a way to help me?

-How do I tell her?



Just for the record, Im not depressed apart from completely normal hormonal mood swings now and again, my mum would help me through anything no matter what because she's just THAT amazing ^_^ and I would never even consider suicide or anything of the sort. Thanks everyone xx

4 Answers

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago
    Favourite answer


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  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    I had this. In the end i was too terrified to sleep at night. I was absolutely exhausted all day every day, my parents when i explained it just looked at me like i was crazy. In the end i tried to commit suicide. What a terrible thing to do that was, but they did give me mirtazispine (zispin) and it's REALLY helped, it's a mild sedative as well as an anti depressant so it alleviates the anxiety and helps you sleep. I really advise seeking help before you get to where i did, because i'm so much better now it's unbelievable, i'm also seeing a psychiatrist, you say you have a dog? he advised me to walk the dog just round the block, he said the fresh air, exercise and doing something nice for the doggy would help me feel more relaxed. Hope i helped, take care x

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  • I think you should go see a psychiatrist. Anxiety can successfully be treated with CBT and maybe some medication. Go get help now. The earlier, the better!

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