If you are on the BC, why did you have DNA testing done (was BC amended after testing)? Living w/ maternal grandmother? Is this just 'physical' custody? OR, did she have legal custody/temp guardianship? If so, how? Legally, you would have had to have been notified of any proceedings where that might have happened. According to law in my state, unwed mothers automatically have sole legal custody....if she dies, the FATHER automatically has sole legal custody. HOWEVER, in my state, DNA is not enough...one has to go on and get Legitimization done to be recognized as the FATHER. There is almost NO reason though why that would not be done when there was DNA. You can most likely get Legal Aid to represent you to get this. You may want to contact your Dept of Family & Children's Services (although they are notorious for messing up more than they fix!).
I pray that God's will be done whether that is for you to gain custody or custody to remain w/ the grandmother (only God knows what is in the best interest of the child).
God bless all of you.
IS THIS WRITTEN FOR SOMEONE ELSE ... A MAN (FATHER) ?
my son is in EXACT SAME situation...I am the paternal g-mother not getting to see my precious little g-son :( It tears my heart out!