Wedding guest should pay for the cost of their meals?

I have seen answers suggesting that when you are invited to a wedding, you should at least find out what it cost per plate and gift the couple the same amount or more. WHAT!? Am I the only one just....I can't even find the words. Cheese and crackers. Question in two parts: Brides-Do you expect your... show more I have seen answers suggesting that when you are invited to a wedding, you should at least find out what it cost per plate and gift the couple the same amount or more.

WHAT!?

Am I the only one just....I can't even find the words.
Cheese and crackers.

Question in two parts: Brides-Do you expect your guests to gift you with cash that cover the cost of the meals?
Guests- Do you feel like you have to give a large amount to cover the cost of the meal/wedding?
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