so...since the act of pushing out a baby doesn't make one a mother, why the need for non-pushers to be on BIRTH certificates?
speaking of "birthing" these are the same folk who believe ALL BABIES have two mommy's: a birthmother and a "real" forever family mother...
the idea that some mothers actually can become such without the use of another woman's womb, is lost on some of these folks.
also, since the act of pushing out a baby is so diminished in the continuum of "mothering" they why do people spend gazillions of dollars to get knocked up in a lab, just to "push out a baby."
personally, i have always thought that the "pushing out a baby doesn't...' banter was most often rhetoric from those who CAN'T PUSH...
i also find that those who can't push, try to shift the "mother" definition to control for the ONLY variable which excludes them: the ability to conceive, gestated, and give birth to the child they are "mothering.."
so, i'll try this:
a mother is one who:
conceived a child
gestated a child
birthed a child
nursed/nurtured a child
raised a child
loved a child
3/6==good enough, mom
2/6==try much harder, mom
1/6==give it up, mom
SUPERMOM who conceived, gestated, pushed, nursed, and raised my own children.
i'll take my super mother prize in gift cards to nieman marcus...