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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 1 decade ago

Opinion on dating a friends ex?

What is your opinion on kissing or dating a friends ex (boyfriend or girlfriend)

I have recently had a friend who kissed one of her best friends ex boyfriends 2 weeks after they broke up. The two friends are no longer speaking.

Is it acceptable because they have broken up or is this always a bad thing?

Update:

Also, do people agree that the two friends will never really talk again, or should they forgive each other and put their friendship above the guy?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Kissing/Dating a friends ex is like drinking Jager:

    It always seems like a good idea at the time, but it never ends well.

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  • Anonymous
    4 years ago

    It really depends on how much you value that friendship. If you never want to talk to her again and don't mind her talking (true) trash to all of your mutual friends, then go for it. If you value her as a friend then don't answer any more of his calls. She's hurting and you're digging the knife in deeper. Boys come and go but friendships and reputations last. Maybe it was her fault that he broke up with her, but you don't have to rub it in her face. Maybe he is the hottest guy you've had a chance with so far and you don't want to miss the opportunity, but what happens after he dumps you or you dump him? Will you have any friends left to turn to when its over and you're hurting? I mean, I can go either way on this one. I've seen friends do this and realize it was a big mistake and loose friends permanently, but I've also seen just once, one girl swear to never date her best friend's ex when they broke up, and then wait one month and do it anyway. She and the best friend no longer talk but she and the ex just got married two months ago. So in her case it worked out, but then she was already 25. Its up to you, just try to think long term and try not to be blinded by day dreams.

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  • Poppet
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    1 decade ago

    Technically, it is acceptable since everyone involved was single. (IE - no cheating) However, it was in VERY poor taste for the friend and the Ex to hook up like that. It had only been 2 weeks! Wounds were still fresh. Emotions still high. Totally inappropriate. Now, if you had said they hooked up 2 YEARS after the break up...well...that is a different story.

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  • 1 decade ago

    It's always a bad thing. There's a universal code. People are going to get with their friend's exes, but it's still going to be considered wrong to them. Even though someone breaks up with their boyfriend, and they say they don't have feelings for them, it's still going to upset them if their friend starts dating them right after! I mean wouldn't it upset you? Unless the girl really didn't care about the ex dating whoever, then it's always going to be "wrong"

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  • 1 decade ago

    Honestly, there is no girl CODE. No, it's not a bad thing. What if that guy wasn't right for her, but was right for her best friend? Friends shouldn't be selfish towards each other. And if said "friend" tells you that you can't date her ex then she's not really your friend because she's honestly only thinking about herself.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Its perfectly acceptable, because they broke up. The girl that broke up with the ex obviously still likes him, and is jealous of her friend. If she still liked him, she shouldnt have broken up with him. Seeing as the guy was single, her friend went up to him, which is perfectly okay. The other girl has to get over her ex.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Boyfriends/girlfriends will come and go but friends are forever. Don’t date an ex, unless your friend gives you a direct order. Don’t do it.

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  • 1 decade ago

    No it's always gonna be a messy situation going for a friend's ex.

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  • 1 decade ago

    no that would hurt the frienship between the 2 friends

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    It's acceptable unless you do it out of spite. And try not to do it right infront of your friend, for obvious reasons.

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